Quote: (11-24-2012 11:32 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:
Is that the tantric stuff I keep hearing about?
I'm not sure about that. The tantra that I'm familiar with is all about non-dual awareness, but the chi-kung, or Daoist, or kundalini sex that I'm familiar with is not specifically about non-dual awareness. So I'm a bit picky about misusing the term tantra in regards to energetically aware sex, even if it is a common term nowadays.
I think chi-kung sex would be an appropriate term. That also leaves room for more individual variation, as chi-kung practices have many ritual forms, but can also be pretty well made up by the practitioner as he goes along. And there is little philosophy attached, and no deities, and no need for witness consciousness - it's mostly at the level of kinesthetic awareness. Some say that energetic awareness can be a stepping stone to even more subtle levels of awareness, but I'm not sure if it really works that way. But even if it doesn't lead to a non-dual state, it does make you feel like you are mixing with the girl. You literally feel your own energies in your body mix with the girls, so you feel as if you can feel right inside her. As she is about to come, you'll feel it, and as she comes you'll feel it so strongly as if you were also coming.
And instead of having to ejaculate, you can hold your sensations at the level of just before you would normally come, and then get used to it, and then let them raise higher to another plateau. And again. And again. Until you are screaming your fucking head off out of the intensity, with every stroke. The intensity of the sexual sensation can get so much that it is indistinguishable from pain, but you don't have to raise it quite that high if you don't want to. But if you do the girl could bite down on your nipple just before the point of causing blood, and you'd feel only intense pleasure - no pain.
You can retrain your sex so that you not only don't have to come, but if you do choose to come, you actually have to step down from a high plateau in order to do it, and the coming feels like an anti-climax.
Girls like both the intensity and the staying power, however a very small minority of girls will be initially slightly freaked at the intensity. After they get used to it they'll not want you to come either.
This type of sex works much better with girls that you are really into and have chemistry with. Some girls will have energy shooting up my spine every time, others will never have energy shooting up my spine. It's the sexually awake little hotties that get the fire going.