There are lots of threads with dudes writing overly complicated descriptions of basic issues. I sometimes have a tendency to do similar things and I have had to train myself to stop. Some dudes are born with a natural ability to not think about this stuff and to just do. Those are the guys who were getting laid in high school while I daydreamed about what it would be like to find the perfect girl. Luckily I got wiser as I got older and started to turn that shit off. Here is how I do it. I just keep a very simple mantra in my head. K.I.S.S., keep it simple, stupid.
And here are three ways that I remember to keep it simple:
1. Respond to what women do, not what they say
This is one is pretty much game 101. She touched your hand and laughed at your jokes and said that she couldn't wait to hang out, but now she is always busy? She's not into you. Move on. Sometimes she is into you, but will not make time for you. Move on. It is useful to spend a limited amount of time thinking about things that you could have done better to build attraction, but keep it simple. The more time you spend obsessing over one girl, the less time you spend meeting new ones. If a particular woman is confusing you, apply Occam's Razor.
Assume the explanation that requires the least amount of presumptions. In other words, keep it simple, stupid.
2. Treat women like a black box
This flows directly from number one. A black box is any process where you can see what is going in and you can see what is coming out, but you dont know what is happening inside. It is really the perfect metaphor the female mind. It is interesting to think about some of the evolutionary reasons that women behave the way they do, but there's only so much time you should spend theorizing. Real life experience trumps keyboard jockeying. The problem with theory is that it is about averages and the world is full of real people, not averages. I see people doing this all the time, trying to fit real life behavior into game/manosphere ideas instead of adjusting their ideas to fit real life.
Observe woman. Act. If she responds positively, keep going. If she responds negatively, try something different or move on. Keep it simple, stupid.
3. Fuck the ratings. Follow your boner
It can be cool to bullshit about what's a 7 versus what's an 8, but remember that it is completely an artificial exercise. There is no such "thing" as a 7. Ratings are an idea that you use to decide relative attractiveness in your brain. You know what else you can use to decide relative attractiveness? Your dick. And I trust my dick over my brain on this issue any day. Don't waste any time deciding if a girl meets your standards, let your boner decide for you.
And as EMech astutely pointed out in another thread, a chick might look like a 6, but have some 8 pussy. There is nothing better than finding an undervalued asset, unless, of course, you're more concerned with impressing other people than with your own pleasure.
If you see something you like, move towards it. If you get closer and you still like it, act. At some point you may decide that she's not worth the effort you're putting out, which is fine. Move on. The important thing is to keep it simple, stupid.
And here are three ways that I remember to keep it simple:
1. Respond to what women do, not what they say
This is one is pretty much game 101. She touched your hand and laughed at your jokes and said that she couldn't wait to hang out, but now she is always busy? She's not into you. Move on. Sometimes she is into you, but will not make time for you. Move on. It is useful to spend a limited amount of time thinking about things that you could have done better to build attraction, but keep it simple. The more time you spend obsessing over one girl, the less time you spend meeting new ones. If a particular woman is confusing you, apply Occam's Razor.
Assume the explanation that requires the least amount of presumptions. In other words, keep it simple, stupid.
2. Treat women like a black box
This flows directly from number one. A black box is any process where you can see what is going in and you can see what is coming out, but you dont know what is happening inside. It is really the perfect metaphor the female mind. It is interesting to think about some of the evolutionary reasons that women behave the way they do, but there's only so much time you should spend theorizing. Real life experience trumps keyboard jockeying. The problem with theory is that it is about averages and the world is full of real people, not averages. I see people doing this all the time, trying to fit real life behavior into game/manosphere ideas instead of adjusting their ideas to fit real life.
Observe woman. Act. If she responds positively, keep going. If she responds negatively, try something different or move on. Keep it simple, stupid.
3. Fuck the ratings. Follow your boner
It can be cool to bullshit about what's a 7 versus what's an 8, but remember that it is completely an artificial exercise. There is no such "thing" as a 7. Ratings are an idea that you use to decide relative attractiveness in your brain. You know what else you can use to decide relative attractiveness? Your dick. And I trust my dick over my brain on this issue any day. Don't waste any time deciding if a girl meets your standards, let your boner decide for you.
And as EMech astutely pointed out in another thread, a chick might look like a 6, but have some 8 pussy. There is nothing better than finding an undervalued asset, unless, of course, you're more concerned with impressing other people than with your own pleasure.
If you see something you like, move towards it. If you get closer and you still like it, act. At some point you may decide that she's not worth the effort you're putting out, which is fine. Move on. The important thing is to keep it simple, stupid.
