Quote: (11-02-2012 01:11 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
4) Marin girls are not looking for a guy like you. Their ideal guy is a rich, white guy.
Quote: (11-03-2012 04:00 AM)OkStudies Wrote:
The law of "supply and demand" would seem to contradict this. There are few black dudes in Marin so demand for them would go up. While (rich) white guys are a dime a dozen.
Great point. This is exactly what I was talking about when I said..
Quote: (11-02-2012 01:11 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
There are ways to counter act these things if you want to discuss that as well.
URM,
How are you presenting yourself? Are you presenting yourself as hard working professional, who is working a corporate 9-5?
Or,
Are you presenting yourself as a more artistic, mysterious, new agey type of character?
Or, maybe something in between?
My point is this..
Marin girls often marry a rich white guy, but they are very open to fooling around with men of other races. Some even prefer to date other races during certain periods of their lives. But, when they date outside their race, what type of guy do they go for???
In my experience, I have seen that many times they don't go for the black/brown guy who is trying to fit in to their white world view. They go for the black/brown guy who has his own identity and worldview. The guy who is a little different, but still classy, respectful, and charming to be around.
Dont present yourself as just another corporate guy.
Don't project the same attitudes, perspectives, and behaviors that the average Marin guy does. When you do that, you are essentially the same as all the other marin white guys except that you have a really good tan!
Does that make sense?
Be different. Isn't that what Marin girls want? An "eclectic", "worldly", and "cultural" experience! Don't be the black guy trying to fit into the typical marin world view, be the black guy who teaches the marin girls something new about the world!
They want something different. They want something unique. As you know, they are very new agey. Being a little different might make them curious about you.
Im not saying that you have to walk around marin with dreadlocks.
(actually, thats not a bad idea) (a socially conscious rapper would be ok too) (a black man with island or reggae style would work well up there)
Anyways, I'm just saying don't be like everyone else, express your individuality. Individuality is respected and admired up there. Use that to your advantage. I think being a little different would work better then trying to fit in too much.
Those girls will likely marry a white hedge fund guy but they will still bang you if you present yourself in an attractive way. In alot of ways you are one of their fantasies. They want to experience a black man, just not a boring one. They want an exciting, passionate one. Be their "dark fantasy" haha. Don't be like everyone else, offer them an experience that they've never had.
Experiment with little differences in your style of dress, back story, and general presentation.
What do you think?
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Here is another thought..
This something that Nomad77 recently helped me with..
Quote: (10-29-2012 01:22 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:
In Marketing there is a term: product market fit. It means does your product (you) fit the market you are trying to sell it in.
Are you giving the girls in Marin what they want? Does your product (you) match up with their needs and wants???
What do Marin girls want?
I'd say financial security, social status, etc.
But, they also want excitement, new age "enlightenment", culture, rich experiences, etc.
Are you giving them what they want? Are you presenting yourself in a way that suggests you can give them what they want. Make sure your product matches your target audience!
Also, it is interesting that as a Black man, you have done better in Taft, Stockton, and Bakersfield, as opposed to Marin. Actually, I'm not surprised. I have spent alot of time in those cities and have seen alot of inter racial dating. I think that sometimes white girls in these rural areas are more curious about black/brown guys. Its more of a novelty to them. They see many black/brown celebrities on tv and they want to experience it. Sometimes, growing up around slightly racist people actually makes them more curious. If you tell a young girl -
"don't date blacks, you are not allowed to date blacks" - We all know that this will often make her more curious about dating a black dude. Especially, if she is exposed to pop culture.
Maybe your game is just better suited for a more working class area? Maybe your game is not a good fit in a rich area? Maybe, your suspicions are true... a rich area can hurt the game of certain men? It all depends how you fit in (or don't fit in)
Let me know what you think..