[blackglasses]

this forum has changed my fucking life. I honestly have to contain myself now knowing how to build attraction with girls that i meet. I am still not good at approaching so I am going to read day bang.

The greatest lesson I have learned is avoiding neediness. Its like girls can sense it. There have been times where I am focused on one girl and wondering why things arent going well. Its like the game gods reward me for not being needy because as soon as a forget about one girl and get laid by another, the other girl magically comes back around.

I am still prone to oneitis but I have learned so much since my pathetic beta high school years. My parents filled with the nonsense advice that girls want a gentlemen and I should pay all the time etc. I was too scared to escalate to anything sexual because my mom told me women should be respected. I was a virgin until the second semester of my freshman year in college.

The problem was that I was getting approached by girls based on my looks but i had no idea how to close or how to go about things. So I usually come across as boring and I had a cheesy smile all the time.I have started hitting the gym and improving my wardrobe. I now have a main girl and an occasional side-fuck.

It is the greatest feeling knowing that you can get sex from women. Although my approach skills arent very good. I know that if I do approach, I will be able to build attraction.

[amity]

that's good to hear man
my own backstory is not all that different from yours
these lines especially resonated with me:
"I honestly have to contain myself now knowing how to build attraction with girls that i meet"
"I know that if I do approach, I will be able to build attraction."
the reality of this, sometimes it just hits me
it's so frickin easy now, compared to as recently as two years ago
having spent the last few days around my city socialising with a mixed group of mates(men and women), i realised i had to cool off on the approaching and flirting with chicks as one of our group was a girl i'm seeing!
but the point is that it came natural to me now and so effortlessly
the reality of that hits me sometimes and it's like wow
there are so many cute women out there, just waiting for a confident, witty man to engage with them, and now, i am that man