Quote: (10-15-2012 03:20 PM)_GQ_ Wrote:
Once I get my housing situation settled my goal is to have a harem of 7 women, fucking each once a week. Anyone have experience dealing with that many women at once? Is it even feasible to maintain for a significant amount of time?
I doubt you'll be able to maintain the interest of 7. I've found that 3 girls is a manageable number, and 4 can be done if the 4ths is a casual fuck buddy.
With 2 or three you can still be romantically interested in the girls, and you need that in order to maintain their interest. Well, I'm being flexible with my definition of "romantic". You need to somehow be into them, passionately. If you have more than 4 girls you're going to find it difficult to maintain those connections and bonds and just for logistical reasons and a lack of time and they'll feel neglected. Two girls and a fuck buddy doesn't sound like much, but it gives you the freedom to see a girl that you are into for a few days in a row, and that helps to cement the girls interest, which keeps them waiting for a few days until you're free again.
You're going to balance the negatives of stress and drama that come with more girls against the positives of novelty and fun. And you'll be balancing the stability that comes with a free schedule and plenty of time to build and maintain connections against not being able to hold a girls interest for being unavailable. A good balance is 2 or 3 girlfriends plus a fuck buddy. The fuck buddy's tend to come and go faster than the girlfriends.
Outside of the internet you're not likely to find much support for the lifestyle. I've lived that way twice - once for a few years and once more recently for just 5 months or so. The first time I was more socially active, and found it dangerous to mention my lifestyle to casual strangers, and even my friends would get weird about it. Don't look for casual acceptance and understanding from the wider community.
Other guys can (I assume) get jealous, and can want to ostrasize and socially exclude you for such deviance. Even when they seem to at first be buddies. I don't know if it's their insecurities being played on, or if they feel you are living the forbidden life they dare not let themselves dream of, or what, but it's a powerful button, and some people can get real sketchy about the issue. Either quietly or in your face.
So I'd suggest not freaking out the "normals". They might know of your lifestyle, and it's difficult to avoid direct questions, like "How's your girlfriend?". "Which one?". But this is a highly socio-sexual lifestyle you are talking about, and guys with a much lower socio-sexual score have some strong deeply held feelings and beliefs around monogamy and living a much more contained "faithful" lifestyle. When those are challenged they feel personally affronted, as if you are stepping on their toes. So it's a trick to be upfront and honest, while being discreet. Just don't be in your face and boastful about it. Don't expect people to be able to handle it - not even your good buddies.
Also, there are positives and negatives with the girls knowing you have other girls. It's good not to have to lie and to not give false expectations. It's never good if they exchange phone numbers. When it's in their face that you are with a specific girl, it's harder for them to deal with emotionally than a vague notion. So keep it vague, and refuse to answer questions one way or the other. Sometimes I've just outright denied it, sometimes the girls have met each other. Both work, but it's more stable to lie. I prefer the truth even if it causes more drama, but truth with plausible deniability. "I'm going to the office". "I'm going out of town for a few days". "I'm going to focus on my work. See you Sunday".
I've put girls on a schedule before. But you have to realize that she'll be feeding you lies about her schedule too. My Sunday girl told me after a year that she'd been seeing other guys the whole time I had her on the once a week schedule. Once a week is not enough sex for a young girl. Hell, even after I upgraded her to 3 times a week when my schedule opened up she was still getting extra-curricular studies. Other girls were able to stay more focused seeing me 2 or 3 times a week. And you can see two girls in the same day often - one will sleep over so you'll see her in the morning, and another will arrive at night. You can even squeeze in a lunch date on those extra randy days.
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