So I'm in a ballroom dance class with some girls. A lot of us head over to this bar around the corner after the class is over. So I'm there talking to a girl from my class who I felt has been giving me some signals during class for the past few sessions. She was there with another female friend but the friend was dancing with some other guys. We're sitting on stools, both angled 45 degrees toward each other, my knee is touching the side of her leg. We talk for a good 20-30 minutes, our faces are super close to each other as we talk, and she's clearly intrigued by my background and lifestyle. Building a connection by being lighthearted and witty, yet serious at times too. Basically joking around but getting to know each other too. All is well. Her friend comes back but she's totally cool about the situation, dutifully just standing off to the side like a good friend should and letting us converse.
Later though, another female friend of theirs comes and joins the conversation, leading the initial friend to come over too. Now there's the three of them and me. The newest girl mentions some new guy in their university, who's supposedly really good-looking but none of them have met him yet. This went on for a good five minutes. I tried to just let the two friends talk to each other and try to talk to my original girl again, and she was pretty receptive, but the newest girl just wouldn't leave and continued to talk about the dude.
I was trying to think of a way to reframe the image of the guy into that of a beta somehow, but my mind was drawing a blank. I didn't want to make an insulting comment about him, as I didn't know him. And even if I did, that's not how I like to operate because that would just show insecurity.
At the same time, I wasn't about to continue sitting there like a chump. I had made a connection, evidenced by the fact that I was making physical contact with the girl's arms, hands, and legs when we talked, she clearly was into me, and so I didn't feel like I would be bolting too early (before a connection could be made). Since I couldn't come up with anything to say to reframe the talk about the other guy, I decided to leave. I probably should have gotten her number somewhere before all that, but at that point, I decided to just leave instead of getting her number with all her friends there and then bolting immediately after (one of our members commented on this in a thread, but I prefer getting the digits somewhere in the middle and not the very end).
How would you guys have handled this situation? (Either the reframing the convo part, getting the contact info part, or anything)
Later though, another female friend of theirs comes and joins the conversation, leading the initial friend to come over too. Now there's the three of them and me. The newest girl mentions some new guy in their university, who's supposedly really good-looking but none of them have met him yet. This went on for a good five minutes. I tried to just let the two friends talk to each other and try to talk to my original girl again, and she was pretty receptive, but the newest girl just wouldn't leave and continued to talk about the dude.
I was trying to think of a way to reframe the image of the guy into that of a beta somehow, but my mind was drawing a blank. I didn't want to make an insulting comment about him, as I didn't know him. And even if I did, that's not how I like to operate because that would just show insecurity.
At the same time, I wasn't about to continue sitting there like a chump. I had made a connection, evidenced by the fact that I was making physical contact with the girl's arms, hands, and legs when we talked, she clearly was into me, and so I didn't feel like I would be bolting too early (before a connection could be made). Since I couldn't come up with anything to say to reframe the talk about the other guy, I decided to leave. I probably should have gotten her number somewhere before all that, but at that point, I decided to just leave instead of getting her number with all her friends there and then bolting immediately after (one of our members commented on this in a thread, but I prefer getting the digits somewhere in the middle and not the very end).
How would you guys have handled this situation? (Either the reframing the convo part, getting the contact info part, or anything)