[Basil Ransom]

Especially the OP.

It ends on a zinger. She made this thread three months into their relationship. Poor guy.

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-rel...-back.html

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We didn't have sex so he broke up with me. How can I get him back?


I think I completely screwed up my relationship with my boyfriend. We met at the beginning of March when we were introduced at an art exhibit party. We clicked that night so when he asked me for my number I gave it to him. He called the next day and we met for coffee and the mutual attraction was definitely there. He's handsome in a rugged sort of way, he's worldly, and he's a great listener.

We agreed that the next time we'd go for dinner, which we did. So over the course of March we went on a bunch of dates and became a couple as we learned about each other and found that we had alot in common.

It took him two weeks to go for the "first kiss." He is very respectful of women and is kind of old fashioned which is so new and refreshing to me. By the end of March we started making out but nothing too serious even though he wanted to. I resisted and he respected my wishes.

The time we spent together just kept getting better. He took me to the theater, we went to art galleries, nice restaurants, even some indoor rock climbing. I met his friends and he met mine. I even introduced him to my ex (good guy, just never worked out romantically between us) and he was completely cool with that and the two became friends.

When it came to sex, even though he really really wanted me and I sensed his frustration, I kept putting the "actual event" off. In other words, we still have not had sex.

When he called me on Wednesday, he said he wanted to meet up for coffee. I said sure but thought that something was different in his voice. So we met and he basically said that it's been three months since we've met and everything has been great, BUT we have not been intimate. He said that while he respects my wishes, "this just doesn't work for me." He didn't get angry or shout or anything like that. He said we could still be friends but that we were no longer a couple. As he got up to say goodbye he added that he found out that I had sex on my first date with my last boyfriend. Ouch! but true.

We have not talked since Wednesday. I REALLY want to get him back but don't really know how. Any suggestions?

[Basil Ransom]

Abe, I think you're posting way too much man, 6 posts over four years?

Anyways, awesome story, hahahaha. This is a story every novice to the game should read. Or at least one like it. Before I got to the end, I started getting suspicious. I was putting myself in the dude's shoes, thinking "Shit, this girl hasn't said she's a virgin. If she was, she'd have said it by now... Given that, I can't be dating a chick who isn't a virgin, for 3 months with no sex." The first date fuck just took it to a whole 'nother level.

Waiting that long *might* be acceptable for a virgin, if you really value getting with a virgin, or you just plain like the girl. But in any other case, if you have to wait that long, you're doing something terribly wrong, or she just will never bang you. I've had something like this happen to me, but it was only three or four dates. I got the sense from these girls, two in particular, that they were disappointed being single, but for some reason decided they wouldn't fuck me. One was a little older, and I got the sense that she realized I would never be a serious relationship prospect. Both of them, when I talked to them, it felt like talking to a PR rep or a customer service spokesperson, that they never let down their guard and kept up this emotional wall.

It doesn't matter who the girl is. If you've gone on two dates with her without sex, and you find out she fucked another guy on the first date, you can't help but feel distaste for her. She will likely never rise above fuckbuddy status, if I do end up banging her. She's already told you you're inferior to him, in so many words. This is why 'ex'-sluts are irritating.

Figures that the person offering sensible advice was banned. And that the main criticism of the girls responding is that she made the mistake of introducing him to her ex, not that she didn't fuck him sooner, or ditch him entirely. If she asked me for advice, I'd tell her to do everything possible that she shows she likes him. Firstly, bang him, and do anything he wants in bed for 3 months. Meanwhile, cook him amazing dinners at least once a week for at least... 3 months. Of course this would never happen. And if it did, the relationship likely wouldn't stay that way. What kept her from giving him sex for 3 months is what would keep her in the future from trying to please her man, with sex and food.

And props to the ex-boyfriend, for slamming on the first date, and for disclosing what a ho she is to the new boyfriend. It's clear that the new guy didn't make her want to bang him.

Player: Demands sex almost immediately, goes for it on the first date, girl is only too happy to give it. Other girls understand why she had sex quickly - 'he was hot!'
Chump: Goes on dates for three months in the hopes of getting sex. Girl doesn't give it up. Other girls think he considers a whore for having expectations, eg "Wow, maybe he should have told her that the dates were payments for sex. Then she could have decided if she wanted to be a prostitute or not."

[Veloce]

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Re: We didn't have sex so he broke up with me. How can I get him back?
I know you're being funny but it rings so true.

I've gone down on far less worthy guys so why did I not with the guy I love? Dumb dumb dumb."

[Veloce]

Wow, just read that thread to the end. The guy is a classic beta. Waited 3 months to bone this chick, she refused, he breaks it off because he found out through her EX that she fucked her EX the first date. The thread goes on how she basically throws herself at this guy to get him back, he bangs her, confesses his love to her, and then wants to talk "before they get serious" and wants to know all about her past, her exes, ONS, etc.

Classic

[Menace]

The sense of entitlement some of the female posters on that thread have is amazing, but not surprising.

[vinman]

I learned from the best when it comes to waiting. A man does things at his pace, with a clever play on words. "Wait? Bullshit! Weight breaks bridges, that's why you don't do it". My Grandfather

[Timoteo]

YinPrincess got her man to wait a whole YEAR. Women will always back other women on shit like this - the whole "he wasn't worth it if he wasn't willing to wait for it" bullshit. He sounded like a great guy, but even "nice" guys want to fuck. And soon. If this guy had been fucking other chicks while she decided when she was going to fuck, it wouldn't have been so bad. But he was nursing blue balls, while the ex smashed after a few hours.

It's also hilarious how chicks will say that making their man wait is the reason why they're happy and still together. Bullshit. It's all the other things that keep you together - when you first fucked has nothing to do with any of those things. You can smash on the first date, find you have nothing else going on, then part ways. Or you can smash on date one, find you click in a bunch of other ways, and continue seeing each other and fucking to your heart's content. The problem is chicks feel like they gave up something for nothing if at least a short-term relationship doesn't grow out of that first encounter. That's how they justify not fucking the next guy - but it's okay for him to invest all kinds of time and money in them for nothing.

I read a little further, and she actually admits that she played homie like a chump and he had every right to feel the way he did. Chicks staying close friends with ex's is always curious to me, from both sides of it. Introducing them to the current BF, and then being cool with them getting tight is strange to me because you have to figure intimate details are going to get shared at some point. The way these posters are criticizing the ex is weak, because ex-GFs will almost always get in the ear of current GFs if they feel they got burned.

[bacon]

if you follow tom leykis he uses the poindexter analogy how these women dont want the safe responisble guy until they realize usually in there mid 30´s hes the best they can get. he also says any woman who puts off sex is full of shit since if you were brad pitt or some heartthrob she would have sex with them on the first date. this dude from the article was a sucker for going on 3 mnths of dates and not having sex. give her 3 dates and no sex he should move on

[Timoteo]

Deep, in their heart of hearts, women know that ALL they have to bargain with is their pussy. That's it. They try to spin it into "all men care about is sex," as if we use them, and they get nothing out of the deal. But it's really the other way around. They know the only thing of value...the only thing a man can't do for himself is fuck. He needs a female for that. So the smart ones give it up quick, because that's the BEST chance of keeping him in the fold. It's no guarantee, but NOT giving it up is a guarantee that he's out quickly. At least dudes with balls. Unlike the guy we're discussing. Meanwhile, she gets time, attention, money spent on her (Gump-ass motherfuckers buy them flowers and gifts, etc.), and if he really knows how to fuck, she gets THAT too (sex isn't this great gift women give to men - especially since he usually does most of the work). The smart chicks know this and act accordingly. The silly ones that get it twisted end up not getting their calls or texts returned and left wondering what happened. And watch her give it up to the next guy within a couple of dates to correct the mistake that she thought she was correcting by not fucking homie for 3 months!

[teh_skeeze]

This is why having options is of the utmost importance. This guy was operating from a scarcity mentality. If he had an abundance mentality it never would have made it three months. I was kind of hoping that he would still walk after finally getting it.