[Indyone]

I met this girl Saturday morning at a Vegas beach club, she kept really low key and mentioned where she graduated from school, lived but was very private about what she did. Funny thing is she had a very flat body, was wearing a granny panties type of bikini, but had a gorgeous face and a great personality. She was half white/half Asian (explains the cardboard body part). We talked for about 5 minutes, very engaging conversation for what it was and there was definitely eye contact and she enjoyed the way I approached her. She has a boyfriend, but I used the line "I'm dating someone too, but at the very least, we can be acquaintances and see where it takes us". She was a nice girl so she was thinking about giving it, but her fat friend comes and cockblocks me and takes her away. I go home Sunday night and try to Facebook her, turns out she is around my age (mid 20's) and owns a very successful restaurant, has been on a tv, magazines, etc.

I tried to stop by her restaurant today (about 30 miles away) to approach her as a casual customer, but she wasn't there. I'm thinking about messaging (not adding) her on Facebook. What would be a good opener you guys would use? Advice on this situation? I REALLY REALLY want to give this a fair shot, at the very least, I'm an entrepreneur myself and would like to have her as motivation.

[HeyPete]

My advice. I definitely wouldn't tell her you went to her restaurant. You look like a stalker.

[Indyone]

Really? We have a lot of common interests and I was going to say something along the lines of "I was going to befriend you on Facebook, but I noticed something unique about you so I wanted to come by and try your food since I was in the area anyways. Oh and of course, I wanted to say Hi too."

[Gmac]

My advice is to not facebook girls you want to fuck. Girls don't add you because they want to fuck you, and you only need one disqualifier on your page to screw yourself.

[BCien]

Show up to her restaurant with a date on a night you think shed be there..Ask her if shes a waitress there..When she says she owns the restaurant laught at her as if shes joking ...Pretend you had heard it was a good spot..but you still have doubts about it..

[MikeCF]

Too much thought given to one girl.

You talked to a girl for 5 minutes and then facebook stalked her and drove 30 miles for a chance encounter?

You need to stop thinking about this one girl and go do about 100 approaches.

[HeyPete]

(08-14-2012 08:11 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

Too much thought given to one girl.

You talked to a girl for 5 minutes and then facebook stalked her and drove 30 miles for a chance encounter?

You need to stop thinking about this one girl and go do about 100 approaches.

Yeah, MikeCF put it better than I did.
Imagine all the poon you passed by in that 30-miles to "visit" a flat-girl, who has a boyfriend.

[Indyone]

Good advice, I don't mean adding her, but messaging her, my Facebook profile is limited so she won't be able to see much.

[Indyone]

(08-14-2012 07:28 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

My advice is to not facebook girls you want to fuck. Girls don't add you because they want to fuck you, and you only need one disqualifier on your page to screw yourself.

(08-14-2012 08:21 PM)HeyPete Wrote:  

(08-14-2012 08:11 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

Too much thought given to one girl.

You talked to a girl for 5 minutes and then facebook stalked her and drove 30 miles for a chance encounter?

You need to stop thinking about this one girl and go do about 100 approaches.

Yeah, MikeCF put it better than I did.
Imagine all the poon you passed by in that 30-miles to "visit" a flat-girl, who has a boyfriend.

I agree with this as well, but I've never done this before because it was seriously not worth the time to focus on ONE girl. I'm out at the club and bar usually twice a week on the weekends and do my usual approaches, numbers and dates, but for some odd reason...I just got hung up on this one girl. It was a little crazy to go out of my way (30 miles), but I saw some clients on the way out there anyways and was able to get some work done as well. I think I'm more infatuated with her business sense and how much she has accomplished ay such an early age, in a way I see her as someone worth competing against and also someone I would like to date. Again, I've NEVER gotten so hung up on one girl before and there are more than a few girls right now that would be down to get down, but all my attention has been drawn to her. Advice on Facebook message opener??

[polymath]

It sounds like she wasn't interested.

I have, in the past, become infatuated with a girl over a momentary meeting before too, it sucks and it doesn't lead to much because your advances can become really transparent.

That doesn't mean it's a lost cause. You're not a stalker for liking a girl from meeting her momentarily, and you can actually establish a worthwhile relationship if you are able to keep your impulses and emotions in check. YOUR DESIRE TO CONTACT HER OFF THE BAT IS YOUR WORST ENEMY.

Be cool.

How did you find out about her restaurant? If it was from facebook, then you should be really super super discreet about going there, if you choose to do so. You're not a stalker for being a customer at her restaurant, but asking for her would be very strange, and she will probably think "what the fuck is that guy doing here" if she walks past your table and remembers you. Don't go immediately, because it will not seem like a chance encounter.

Is the restaurant your only lead, aside from messaging her?

Here is what I would do: take one of the other girls who are "down to get down" to the restaurant, and play it like an accident.

Go there a few times if that's what it takes to catch the girl's attention. Chat her up. Give her a friendly vibe, then once your acquaintance has solidified, number close her. Touch base a couple of times via text, then ask her out if she seems interested.

Thinking "I would like to have her as motivation" is a terrible mindset. Maybe she is your motivation, maybe she's not. But, she's a person. You should think of her as a woman with her own life and characteristics and sensibility, and try to mesh with that rather than trying to find the perfect combination of words to attract her through facebook.

But dude, she would have given you her number if she really felt attracted to you. Your goal right now should not be to "bust through her defenses" or anything nutty like that, it should just be to re-establish your cool until the opportunity arises to see her again.

The more a girl realizes that you are investing effort in her, the more repulsed she will become.

[Indyone]

I don't think there would be any other encounter moving forward where we would bump into each other. I went out on a limb and messaged here this...

This is totally going to be the cliche "guy I met in Vegas at my friend's bachelorette's party move" so of course I had to look you up on Facebook and say Hi. This is me completely throwing it out there, Hi! At the very least we can be acquaintances right?

[BCien]

(08-15-2012 12:04 AM)Indyone Wrote:  

I don't think there would be any other encounter moving forward where we would bump into each other. I went out on a limb and messaged here this...

This is totally going to be the cliche "guy I met in Vegas at my friend's bachelorette's party move" so of course I had to look you up on Facebook and say Hi. This is me completely throwing it out there, Hi! At the very least we can be acquaintances right?

?

[Indyone]

What's that dancing purple monster suppose to mean?

[Parlay44]

(08-16-2012 12:13 AM)Indyone Wrote:  

What's that dancing purple monster suppose to mean?

Forum Troll. It's means someone is calling him on his bullshit.

Trolls are people who purposefully derail threads or go on rants or have some kind of personal agenda.

Read here: Types of RooshVForum Trolls

[username]

Good first step.

The next step is that you need to find her home address and then find out which bedroom is hers. Maybe go through her garbage to learn important details about her. Maybe drop in unexpectedly and say "wow I can't believe you live here."

/sarcasm

Stalker much?

[hypesession]

(08-16-2012 10:24 AM)username Wrote:  

Good first step.

The next step is that you need to find her home address and then find out which bedroom is hers. Maybe go through her garbage to learn important details about her. Maybe drop in unexpectedly and say "wow I can't believe you live here."

/sarcasm

Stalker much?

That's just good recon.

Don't hate.