[Sargon of Akkad]

Until June I was sleeping with a girl who was basically a FWB. I'd bang her at her place and we'd go out occasionally.

Once or twice, she would send me a message saying "I don't think we should meet up anymore. It's not good simply to meet up and have sex without 'love'." (she's a Christian, Church-going, Korean, and grew up in a very strict household).

We ended up banging after she sent this message, anyway, but I kinda had to be subtle about re-entering.

She finds out I've been seeing another girl (who later became an LTR)...says we shouldn't...but we end up banging anyway. Finally, she says again "But this isn't good, you know. We shouldn't have sex anymore." I answer: "OK, fine with me," and say we should just meet up as old buddies.

A few days later, she texts me, said she was making sushi with her friends, and asks if I want to come over and try some when they're gone. I respond a few hours later with "sorry, don't have time" (I was working).

We don't meet up for a month (I'm busy with my GF and exams). I run into her and we talk. She says she thought it was odd that I went silent, but now understands since I've got a GF.

Any advice on getting her back into my rotation? She seems to have Christian guilt about non-committed sex (she started blushing the first time I asked her out), which will be amplified by the fact that she knows I've got a GF. It seems like I can't just hit her up and say "hey, let's fuck". Any ideas?

[Sakebomb]

(08-03-2012 07:19 AM)Sargon of Akkad Wrote:  

Until June I was sleeping with a girl who was basically a FWB. I'd bang her at her place and we'd go out occasionally.

Once or twice, she would send me a message saying "I don't think we should meet up anymore. It's not good simply to meet up and have sex without 'love'." (she's a Christian, Church-going, Korean, and grew up in a very strict household).

We ended up banging after she sent this message, anyway, but I kinda had to be subtle about re-entering.

She finds out I've been seeing another girl (who later became an LTR)...says we shouldn't...but we end up banging anyway. Finally, she says again "But this isn't good, you know. We shouldn't have sex anymore." I answer: "OK, fine with me," and say we should just meet up as old buddies.

A few days later, she texts me, said she was making sushi with her friends, and asks if I want to come over and try some when they're gone. I respond a few hours later with "sorry, don't have time" (I was working).

We don't meet up for a month (I'm busy with my GF and exams). I run into her and we talk. She says she thought it was odd that I went silent, but now understands since I've got a GF.

Any advice on getting her back into my rotation? She seems to have Christian guilt about non-committed sex (she started blushing the first time I asked her out), which will be amplified by the fact that she knows I've got a GF. It seems like I can't just hit her up and say "hey, let's fuck". Any ideas?

Defiling religious Korean girls are my thing, and I guess you know already that they love it when you "them them."
Is the girl a student studying abroad in your hometown (away from her home in Korea) for a short period of time?

What I learned over the years is that Korean girls especially go to churches for no good reason. One even told me this saying among Asians (or Asian Americans), "The Japanese more or less integrate into the society. The Chinese make restaurants around America. Koreans build churches in America" lol.. but this is telling of their culture.

The Koreans who come to a foreign country get lonely and churches are basically where they come gather and eat Korean food after praying for an hour. I've found that Korean girls get lonely (understandable) and go to church, and a lot of them in fact pretend to be religious while deep down they're looking for men or other companionship.


OK, so your girl may be different from those girls and is REALLY religious, as in she thinks of jesus and prays everyday even if no one is looking at her in a church.

I've had one such girl myself, and she was the best because she was the most sexually repressed and starved. The best sex with her was before going to her Korean church on Sunday morning, where she gets to "cleanse her soul" for what she just did.

The moral of the story is that what a religious girl is REALLY looking for is a man to guide her to the right places. And guiding her to the right places, we will. They already have a proven record of "surrendering" themselves to another man and laying down in submission.

I may have come off as too pushy or just playing stereotypical alpha when it comes to these types of girls, but really, from my personal experience, there's no other way around it. Somehow persuading, tricking, or rationalizing these Christian hamsters into having sex with you isn't going to work. It has to be an emotional surrender, where you firmly take her hand like good jesus and "guides" her into the bed.

TBH, i think that's what you've been doing to your girl. She's just hamster rationalizing the relationship with you using religious terms, but in the end her emotions are telling her otherwise: there's no other way around LONELINESS. The real reason she was going to church in the first place is most likely to deal with her loneliness (and let the lord guide her through hardship, etc), but you provide a real solution to that loneliness. Win-Win.

(She may also realize that's better than some virtual mindfuck)

[RCron]

I'm not sure if my experience directly applies to yours but a few months back I was seeing this 40something MILF who was a Sunday school teacher. We met on POF and I ran the standard first date game where we sat at the bar and I slowly ramped up the Kino and then we kissed (prior to seeing the light with Tuth's first date recipe). Since I walked to the bar she offered me a ride back and we made out for a good 20 minutes outside of and insider her car.

When we got to my place I did everything in my power to get her in my apartment but she had the will power of a monk lol. We ended up sitting on a remote bench outside where I proceeded to suck on her breasts and slide my hand down her jeans. It wasn't until the 5th date that I got the bang and she totally fell for my "just the tip" proposal.

Unfortunately it was only a one time bang as our next date she was on her period and her LMR was rock solid. I finally cut her loose as I was getting tired of her guilt swings and constantly hearing "I'm not having sex with you!"

The most frustrating thing was that I could tell she was an extremely sexual woman but her religious guilt was just too much to overcome. You don't need me to tell you Sargon it's a tough mountain to climb!

[east and west]

5 dates?did u pay for any meals?

at what point do you give up on trying to bang these girls?

[RCron]

(02-15-2013 05:43 AM)east and west Wrote:  

5 dates?did u pay for any meals?

at what point do you give up on trying to bang these girls?

No meals. The first date was just meeting for one drink. The second was drinks and appetizers and the last three were just hanging out at my place watching movies. Correction: The bang actually happened on the fourth date but we had five total.

From the beginning I knew this one was going to be a project so I would fit her into any odd free evenings during the week all the while working on new leads.