Talking to Mom about my Dad. He left her for another woman 10 years ago. She desperately tried to keep the family together, but he didn't care about the financial implications or precarious situation it would leave the family in. He persisted.
I remember that painfully. Basically sent my mother into near poverty for several years before she finally managed to get her own career started after being a home-maker for 15 years.
Today she dropped a bombshell as we were discussing my father, and told me he fathered a daughter with a woman 20 years ago in California. At that time as well as later, she decided to do what was best for the children and sacrificed her dignity in order to buy us time. It didn't help that her own parents refused to help her. She even offered to adopt the girl. She's an atheist but that has to be a Christian act if ever I saw one.
If he fathered the child, but had learned his lesson, you could forgive him - but my Mom basically sacrificed 20 years of her life to raise his children, even offering to raise his bastard spawn, and he still smashed the marriage in the end. She's doing ok now, but I can't for a moment fathom the grief and distress he must've put her through, knowing she's defintely a fragile person.
Part of me wants to ask "why?". But I have come to realize my father is devoid of compassion for others and is an epic sociopath. He's made a career out of hating on liberals and left-wingers for undermining Western civilization and principles but this is almost unforgiveable hypocrisy. Not to mention he rewarded devoted, total loyalty with a giant turd.
And then there's my Grandparents? What kind of sick person refuses to help their daughter when her husband is a total creep?
And finally there's my sister. What about her? Does it even matter? This is so fucked up.
Anyways... as you can imagine I'm not pleased with my father right now. Nor my Grandparents. I'm posting this now before I go to bed because I'm not sure how to react. Will sleep on it. I'm expecting some fucked up dreams. Hoping for some advice.
I remember that painfully. Basically sent my mother into near poverty for several years before she finally managed to get her own career started after being a home-maker for 15 years.
Today she dropped a bombshell as we were discussing my father, and told me he fathered a daughter with a woman 20 years ago in California. At that time as well as later, she decided to do what was best for the children and sacrificed her dignity in order to buy us time. It didn't help that her own parents refused to help her. She even offered to adopt the girl. She's an atheist but that has to be a Christian act if ever I saw one.
If he fathered the child, but had learned his lesson, you could forgive him - but my Mom basically sacrificed 20 years of her life to raise his children, even offering to raise his bastard spawn, and he still smashed the marriage in the end. She's doing ok now, but I can't for a moment fathom the grief and distress he must've put her through, knowing she's defintely a fragile person.
Part of me wants to ask "why?". But I have come to realize my father is devoid of compassion for others and is an epic sociopath. He's made a career out of hating on liberals and left-wingers for undermining Western civilization and principles but this is almost unforgiveable hypocrisy. Not to mention he rewarded devoted, total loyalty with a giant turd.
And then there's my Grandparents? What kind of sick person refuses to help their daughter when her husband is a total creep?
And finally there's my sister. What about her? Does it even matter? This is so fucked up.
Anyways... as you can imagine I'm not pleased with my father right now. Nor my Grandparents. I'm posting this now before I go to bed because I'm not sure how to react. Will sleep on it. I'm expecting some fucked up dreams. Hoping for some advice.
A year from now you'll wish you started today