[ElJefe]

This is related to the 50 shades og grey, but perhaps deserves its own thread.

I just spent about an hour reading through a host of women's profiles on an adult social networking site, and some of that shit is whack, but the funny thing some of the stuff she mentions is EXACTLY what I wanted to do to her.

For instance, one girl loved it when guys would just grab her ass in public. That apparently turned her on.

Another one made it clear she wanted her man to abuse her completely.

My question is:

Is there a short-cut to identifying a girl's fetish? If yes, what do you do?
Do most girls have kinks, or are most vanilla?

How to "activate" that deeper, darker side of them. I am clear on the basic steps of attraction, but this next-level stuff is interesting.

[Laner]

Most women are pretty kinky at some level.

When I am getting to know a woman some things I will do:

- Whisper something in her ear in a deep voice. Look for blushing. If she blushes try a nibble on her ear. She might be a dirty talker.

- Make her "run the gauntlet". If she gets jump and giggly when she walks past you for fear of having her ass slapped, she might like some spanking. Again look for a blush.

- Get her to flash you in public. If this excites her she might be an exhibitionist.

Outside of the obvious hair pulling and animal sex these are ones that I go for early on.

[iknowexactly]

As the above poster mentioned, others' fetishes often seem "whack". There's no accounting for, and I think probably not much changing of sexual tastes.

I've been looking at women's faces and asking myself "Can I picture this girl calling me 'Master' while she's being fucked? "

The theory behind it is if the answer is clearly "no" , there may not be much benefit to getting her in bed if she's an angry-fuck, likes to be on top chick.

[Veloce]

I've always found you just have to be somewhat indirect about it. If she's on top and I let my finger brush her asshole, what's her reaction? Good? Okay, take it further. Take that to putting pressure on her asshole, and then fingering. All green lights? Great, she probably likes getting assfucked. Girls that like getting assfucked also probably like getting their hair pulled, choked out, facials, etc. I used to tell girls beforehand I'd jizz on their face, now I just go for it as long as I know she's got some level of kink in her. As far as the outfits/restraints shit goes, that almost always requires some level of commitment. I've only been with a few girls casually that were down with handcuffs and slutty outfits. Most of the reserve that shit for boyfriends. But I've always introduced that by driving by or walking by a sex shop. Make some smartass comment, like, "Man, I wonder what their handcuff selection is like." Watch her reaction. Take it from there.

If you get a few drinks in a girl and you've already banged her a couple times, you can ask her directly, "What do you fantasize about?"

The biggest surprise for me was this girl I was banging, half-Mexican, that I fucked on her period. As I came close to cumming, she said, "I want to swallow your cum." I replied, "Um, I'm pretty sure, there's, uh, blood on my cock." She replied, "I know".

I had no reason to believe she was this dirty. It actually grossed me out enough that I cut her off afterward.

[King Solomon]

Assume the sale.

Do whatever the hell you want. Probably almost all of it will work. They are all super-dirty. Some of them just don't know it yet.

Most of them DO know it.

[HiFlo]

Many girls - as long as they're comfortable around you - are open to what they like, especially if it gets them off.

You could just ask directly. Make sure to share a 'fetish' of yours..."I'm so into roleplaying. My favorite is cops & robbers. I like being the robber and the girl busts me for trying to break into someone's house to steal her crystal chandelier, but she's a female officer afterall....what do you like?"

[Caligula]

(04-12-2012 07:44 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

As the above poster mentioned, others' fetishes often seem "whack". There's no accounting for, and I think probably not much changing of sexual tastes.

I've been looking at women's faces and asking myself "Can I picture this girl calling me 'Master' while she's being fucked? "

The theory behind it is if the answer is clearly "no" , there may not be much benefit to getting her in bed if she's an angry-fuck, likes to be on top chick.

Keep in mind that a lot of girls who love to really submit are also the biggest shit-testers. They will act like brats and give you shit just so you can put them in their place. They might strike you as bossy bitches (which is what many end up being with most guys) but if you manage to hold them down they'll adore you for it.

Whether you're willing to put up with all the hassle in the process depends on whether the girl is worth the investment.