[Sly]

I hung out with a random girl i met on the beach for probably an hour at a beach in Rosarito (Mexico) on Saturday.

I would've kept hanging out with her but I needed to go rest if i wanted to party at night. I only slept 3 hours the night before.

I ran into her at night time as well. Asked me to go to her friends table but way too many girls there for me to spend time with her.

Got her # and she told me to find her on facebook.

There is millions of people with her name so i can't find her.

Now i need a text opener/help with how i should get in contact with her.

Do i just go with roosh's, . "hey girl's name it's sly how are you?

or something more upbeat?

She's a super hot exotic 20 year old mexican girl who happens to live near me in san diego.

thx for any help

[Perseus]

Personally, if i spent an hour with a girl talking to her, then got her number then and there or later at night, i would text her something that we both shared in that hour, a joke, a comment about some weirdo on the beach, etc. I would skip the "hey, how are you?"....who gives a shit how she is....

[CJ]

For the first text use, "Hey what's up?" or "Hey how are you?" All the time. Don't ask if she remembers you, don't tell a stupid story, don't tell a joke, don't try to be cute. If she wants to talk to you, she'll respond to those.

It doesn't matter if you don't care about how she is or not, you're just giving her something to respond to, to get the idle chit-chat going (here you can recall the guy with the goofy mustache at the beach), so you can build that minimal amount of comfort in her. Cut the convo short w/o responding, then start it up the next day, and ask her out, ideally for that night to get her to make an impulse decision. Above all: Keep it simple.

[Sly]

Thanks guys.
Do you guys follow Roosh's advice on texting girls for first time between the hours of 8 and 9 pm to make sure they are most likely not busy?

[CJ]

Yes, I usually shoot for sometime between 7 and 9pm on a Sunday - Wednesday night. 7-8 on a Thursday.

[Zee]

I know it goes without saying but since I don't know how good you texting game is I'll share. When you text her the simple hey whats up or whatever just make sure you wait for her to respond first cause nothing turns a girl off faster then if you text her twice before she texts back if shes taking too long haha. Also try waiting at least 5-10 minutes after she texts you to text her back just so she knows you have shit to do and she isn't THAT important.

[CJ]

(04-11-2012 05:51 PM)Zee Wrote:  

I know it goes without saying but since I don't know how good you texting game is I'll share. When you text her the simple hey whats up or whatever just make sure you wait for her to respond first cause nothing turns a girl off faster then if you text her twice before she texts back if shes taking too long haha. Also try waiting at least 5-10 minutes after she texts you to text her back just so she knows you have shit to do and she isn't THAT important.

That is good advice, that I hope everyone here already understands, but sadly that is overlooked sometimes.

As for waiting 5-10 minutes, I try to mirror how long she took. So if she took an hour to get back to me, I take an hour and change to get back to her. Usually this gets her to start responding faster, and then I'll take 5 minutes, unless we're setting up a meeting. I'll also throw in extended pauses between texts for the hell of it. Sometimes intentionally, and other times the world is as it should be and I have more important things to mess around with.

[el mechanico]

How single are you today?

Credit: Kimleebj

[Sly]

(04-11-2012 08:08 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

How single are you today?

Credit: Kimleebj

I'm as single as you can be at the moment. I spent my entire spring break in baja california, mexico, and went last weekend also.

The girls are so much better then american girls. No games. If they are interested in you, they let you know.

So i end my mexico adventures with 3 notches and tons of phone #'s. It is a lot easier for me to day game down there then san diego for some reason. It makes me realize that i have been in san diego too long and need to move away once i graduate.

[Sly]

Thanks for the helps guys:

So here is what happened with the text:

Me: Hey "girl's name its sly.how are you?

her: what bryan?

me: bryan from (my home town)

her: I met so many people from (home town)! haha add me on fb to recognize you. (Her name)

Me: ya so there is over 1,000,000 results for (her name). Maybe it's better if you add me (my name)

Her:Just added you now I remember you! haha

Me:For suree. Have plans this weekend?

Her:Nope! Not yet haha what about you?

Me:I have some gift certicates to get massages in (her home town). want to get one this weekend. Maybe Saturday?

Her: haha that's cool! Around what time?

Me;Around 2? so you're in?

[/b]Haven't got a response since last message

All of her texts were sent within a minute until the last one.. so i am assuming she can't plan that far in advance and hopefully gives me a response.


I really don't care what the outcome is. I suck at text follow ups with american girls and i know i need to work on it. I think i did okay?

[CJ]

Good start. Myself, I also don't like including my name in the initial text either, I hope she has already saved my #, but if not she'll ask your name unless she has no interest.

I don't like the FB thing, but I've had that go really bad before when I refused, so you probably made the right choice.

I do like how you kept things logistical, but I think you made two big mistakes here. First, you asked her out too soon. I prefer to wait a day, to try and thinly guise the fact that I'm just trying to get in her pants. Second, you asked her out on a weekend. That's usually bad for a first date. Going for a day event was smart though, instead of going for something on a weekend night.

When she said, "Nope! Not yet haha what about you?" I'd have probably said something crazy like, "Goin to Vegas, 72 hours of wild partying! You in?" You can replace Vegas with something like Amsterdam if you're already close to Vegas.

Not a bad effort at all though. Since she seems unlikely to respond, I'd just lather, rinse repeat. Wait a few days, maybe shoot for next Monday and send another 'What's up?' Idly bullshit about your weekend, don't respond to every message she sends instantly, then just randomly stop replying, ideally when she asks a question. Respond to that question within 12-24 hours, and then segue into asking her out for that night, or the following. That'll be a Tuesday or Wednesday night if you're keeping score. Good luck!

[Sly]

haha funny remark about vegas. I might be going there this weekend after all.

Even if you weren't going to vegas, would you lie about going in order to sound sick?

By the way she is not 21 yet so options are limited nightlife wise unless i go back down to mexico with her. i have been spending too much money lately and in order for logistics to work down there i would have to get a hotel.

thanks for the feedback fellas. still no response. .
i got the massage idea from my buddy. my style would have been to keep it simple with lunch but my buddy has been getting way more ass then me lately so decided to take his advice.

[CJ]

So you're going to Vegas and you didn't mention this! Ha, I always 'might' go to Vegas for the weekend, so ya I'll say things like that. I prefer to get the, "Is he serious?" hamster wheels turning in her head.

Try to avoid anything food related for a first date, and the massage thing might be too personal for a first date. Then again, she's 20 so your options are somewhat limited. She can get into a hookah bar right? IDK, this is why my limit is 21.

Anyway, don't try messaging her again until Monday or Tuesday, and then just pretend you never invited her out in the first place by starting over again.

[Sly]

thanks for the advice cj.

i didn't know i was going to vegas until after our text convo lol

my buddy told me last night he has a suite at the cosmo and his intitial wingman bailed on the trip. so i'm paying $200 for 2 nights in a suite with him, one of his girls and a the girls friend.

should be a crazy weekend. hope it doesn't rain

[CJ]

Jesus, why the hell didn't I tell my friend we needed to stay at cosmo!

Oh well, you're welcome, hope you railed one of those girls and then at least one more while you were out there.

[elabayarde]

Hey Sly,

This simple text has generally always gotten a responds, or at least 80%. I don't know if it is beta-ish... But I have pissed off some many chicks in so many places or messed up my game... and it always seem to worked to give a last swing.

Hey,
I just wanted to let you know that you crossed my mind...(optional: how are you).

I think because its partially flattering, but leaves enough room for there insecurities to ask.... Well I wonder what this person is thinking....
Even situations that were completely shipwrecked.. The chicks have all at a minimum...responded. Giving at least a small window. And for someone with tight game, that's all you need....