What are some good measures by which to decide after the first date, which went OK but not great, that it's worth calling/texting her again?
You do the meet for drinks first date and she showed interest and you enjoyed yourselves; laughing and smiles. But you walk her back to the metro (or whatever) and you get weak physical reciprocity and no opportunity to kiss. You're doing the arm in arm thing (or most recently I held an umbrella over our heads and had my arm over her shoulder), but you're just not feeling her get into it.
My MO has been to name an upcoming night for a date two right there as we part and then wait and see if she contacts me to make arrangements. Needless to say, it has never happened. I don't know if I'm being wise and cutting losses or blowing opportunities where I'm expected to chase harder. Of course the outlined scenario is more likely to happen with the alluring ones. The merely interesting ones cling to my arm and emphasize that I am to call.
I don't just play aloof, I really am. Getting over myself enough to start asking for numbers unless the girl was throwing it at me was a process in itself. So I'm still a bit lost on how much chasing guys actually do. My time is limited and I don't want to waste it, but I lack the experience to know if I'm cutting out prematurely. How do you make the call and how do you play it after a fun but rather non-sexual date one?
You do the meet for drinks first date and she showed interest and you enjoyed yourselves; laughing and smiles. But you walk her back to the metro (or whatever) and you get weak physical reciprocity and no opportunity to kiss. You're doing the arm in arm thing (or most recently I held an umbrella over our heads and had my arm over her shoulder), but you're just not feeling her get into it.
My MO has been to name an upcoming night for a date two right there as we part and then wait and see if she contacts me to make arrangements. Needless to say, it has never happened. I don't know if I'm being wise and cutting losses or blowing opportunities where I'm expected to chase harder. Of course the outlined scenario is more likely to happen with the alluring ones. The merely interesting ones cling to my arm and emphasize that I am to call.
I don't just play aloof, I really am. Getting over myself enough to start asking for numbers unless the girl was throwing it at me was a process in itself. So I'm still a bit lost on how much chasing guys actually do. My time is limited and I don't want to waste it, but I lack the experience to know if I'm cutting out prematurely. How do you make the call and how do you play it after a fun but rather non-sexual date one?