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Body Language
04-10-2012, 03:38 PM
I need to get productive today and stop fucking off on the internet, so I'll make this short and concise.
Female IOI's:
She enters your orbit (obviously posts up and stands near you), the long gaze (strong eye contact), the long gaze with a smile, any touching that she initiates (if she squeezes your muscles +1), hair stroking or flicking, primping and preening, pupil dilation, mirroring your body language, smiling constantly, starring at your lips, getting extremely close to your face (time to kiss her)
Good male body language:
Posture is very important (stand up straight, chest out, shoulders back, just don't over do it and look like a tool)
Make slow, confident gestures, do not scurry around, do not fidget, do not constant adjust your hat, shirt, watch
Do not lean in when talking to a woman, lean back, never "peck" and bob your head in towards her when you speak
Avoid approaching women from behind, it is better to approach from the side
Stand at a 45 degree angle when first speaking to her, this is an "open" body posture, if you stand shoulder square towards her, you are in a "closed" position and she will unconciously feel "boxed in"
Keep your hands out of your pockets
When leaning against the wall, bar, etc. sprawl out a bit, you can stretch your arms out a bit when you lean, this is a "dominant body position" that shows you are confident, in control, and are staking claim to physical space, you are not threatened by others
When making eye contact with a woman, never break the gaze first, let her look away first, if you break eye contact and turn your head and look away immediately, this will be interpreted as a BETA display, you will be seen as scared, let her break eye contact first, then approach, if she doesn't break eye contact then approach immediately with a big smile and go direct
Learn to smile and return smiles to women that smile at you, this will make you look fun, happy, positive, and let her know that you return her invitation
Avoid letting your eyes dart around the room, learn to use your peripheral vision, do not stare at the wall or the floor, and especially do not eye fuck women, unless they do it to you first, and still you must approach them
Do not over gesture with your hands, unless you are very good at nonverbal communication, or are using the gestures to help tell a story or illustrate a point.
Do not let your hands clinch up tightly into fists (this can be unconcious for some people who tend to do depressed, have anxiety, anger, etc. issues), remember to keep open hands/palms