First of all, I am not trying to be a Race Troll. However, I want to be a Realist.
What I am trying to say here is that Dating is like a market.
As a man, I offer something (approach) and a woman decides whether she wants it or not. (agree to get to know me)
I am an Asian. I saw someone's reply here that clearly described the situation I am in. (In my state, over 90% are white. Asian population is only 2%)
According to his reply, I am like a asian product on the shelf in a grocery store. it has unfamiliar names on it and is not well known to the public. As an average American person, it's hard for them to purchase it unless they've already tried or heard good things about them.
I consider myself as a product for a niche market. I am not for a general population. However, for people who wants it, I can be considered as an exotic or rare.
Why am I saying this? If I made it to the first date, I realized they either liked asian culture (soap operas, anime, music) or dated asian guys before. I kind of hated when they said 'to be honest, I am into this asian stuff hehehe' 'well, I dated this guy from this asian country'. Now, I know it's how it is. I even ask them 'so what kind of asian stuff do you like? have you dated asian guy before?'
I've met 'Average Western girl' but there wasn't something that made us click together. (something you can only feel, hard to explain)
Usually the girls who go for asian stuff, are kind of nerdy ones.
But I met ones who I wouldn't think of as asian lover.
So here I am as a product that's not for the mainstream.
There is nothing I can do if they don't need/want me.
I wanted to convert the ones who's not associated with asian stuff or people. But I figured it's better to find a customer who needs it than wasting my time on convincing them.
'I can't fight the market'
I really think what I should do is, instead of waiting for the customer to find me on the shelf, I should go out there to approach as many customers as possible who might be interested.
(Like you needed new windshield and you received a flyer at the right time Bam! OR the people ask you try some samples at Costco)
I think it applies to White Vs White too. She won't just find you attractive no matter how tight your game is. Wouldn't you rather find a girl who at least wants to get to know you?
What I am trying to say here is that Dating is like a market.
As a man, I offer something (approach) and a woman decides whether she wants it or not. (agree to get to know me)
I am an Asian. I saw someone's reply here that clearly described the situation I am in. (In my state, over 90% are white. Asian population is only 2%)
According to his reply, I am like a asian product on the shelf in a grocery store. it has unfamiliar names on it and is not well known to the public. As an average American person, it's hard for them to purchase it unless they've already tried or heard good things about them.
I consider myself as a product for a niche market. I am not for a general population. However, for people who wants it, I can be considered as an exotic or rare.
Why am I saying this? If I made it to the first date, I realized they either liked asian culture (soap operas, anime, music) or dated asian guys before. I kind of hated when they said 'to be honest, I am into this asian stuff hehehe' 'well, I dated this guy from this asian country'. Now, I know it's how it is. I even ask them 'so what kind of asian stuff do you like? have you dated asian guy before?'
I've met 'Average Western girl' but there wasn't something that made us click together. (something you can only feel, hard to explain)
Usually the girls who go for asian stuff, are kind of nerdy ones.
But I met ones who I wouldn't think of as asian lover.
So here I am as a product that's not for the mainstream.
There is nothing I can do if they don't need/want me.
I wanted to convert the ones who's not associated with asian stuff or people. But I figured it's better to find a customer who needs it than wasting my time on convincing them.
'I can't fight the market'
I really think what I should do is, instead of waiting for the customer to find me on the shelf, I should go out there to approach as many customers as possible who might be interested.
(Like you needed new windshield and you received a flyer at the right time Bam! OR the people ask you try some samples at Costco)
I think it applies to White Vs White too. She won't just find you attractive no matter how tight your game is. Wouldn't you rather find a girl who at least wants to get to know you?