[MrXY]

Last night I went solo (as usual) to a popular ladies night at an upscale restaurant/bar.

Did a few approaches that ended in quick blowouts or just sputtered out.

As I leaned against the bar, sipping slowly on my single malt scotch (Balvenie Double Wood), I noticed an Asian chick on the dance floor-slender with a good body, great hair, best dressed woman in the place, generally quite sexy.

Time passed, and as I headed to the bathroom I noticed her at the bar obviously eyeballing me. I stopped and used my great opening line "HI"

We exchanged pleasantries and I said "I'll be back in a minute"(I really had to piss)

She responded, "Ok, please come back and talk to me!" Wow I thought how often does an American wench say something nice like that.

When I returned we started dancing right away. She was all smiles and fun.

After a while I pulled her outside to sit on a bench overlooking the water. I leaned away from her and within 5 minutes she was snuggled up against me like a kitten-telling me about herself and her life-had grown in Japan lived here for 15 years of so ( speaks excellent english with a sexy accent).

Then she starts in saying how tall and handsome I am and that she hardly ever meets a guy my age (40's she is late 30's I guess but looks great) who is in great shape like i am, about how she hasn't met a guy like me since her marriage ended, how she really wants me to come back and see her, insisting that i take her number etc.

I was sitting there thinking "Is this real life?"

When I told her where i lived she kept saying "Oh you have to drive home". Are you going to be ok?" I sensed that she badly wanted to invite me to stay with her-and if she had been American I would have pushed for it by saying I probably shouldn't drive ( not true, i was sober), but honestly I was so flummoxed by the way she was treating me-so sweet and sincere seeming- that i didn't know how to handle it.

We ended up making out a bit. On the drive home I got a voicemail from her saying how much she enjoyed meeting me.

I've dated a few Asian American girls but never a truly Japanese or Asian girls

So I need to know:

Are Japanese women really like this, or is this chick crazy?

If she is for real, how should I handle this?

[Pilgrim37]

She's a Ladyboy!

[Spike]

(02-09-2012 04:26 PM)Pilgrim37 Wrote:  

She's a Ladyboy!

How do you know ? were you there ?

If you have nothing constructive to say, say nothing !

[dk902]

It's strange isn't it? After our dealings with women in America/UK/Canada (insert English speaking country here), it's no wonder we end up thinking most women are bitches and sluts.

And yes..women CAN ACTUALLY BE LIKE THIS! I found it hard to believe too, that sweet feminine women existed. If she's really into you as you say, then don't sweat it, probably dial back the negs, cockiness as it's not overly necessary.

Next time push for sex, else another guy will - that's always my philosophy.

Until you do meet her keep building your other prospects.

[violão]

Sir, I can attest to the fact that she is likely quite sincere. Asian Americans are just like the rest of the bunch, but girls who are in or from Korea or Japan (the only places I've had direct experience with) are so much more genuine and sweet. It's really refreshing.

They actually say what they mean and you don't have to "neg" or be cocky or swing your dick around like an ox to have a connection with one of them. Of course, like any other female, they respond to alpha males with value, but instead of playing games you can have genuine fun and be playful with them instead of thinking up cunning ways to get around their bitch shields.

I love East Asian girls. I'm no expert (yet) but when I get more experience there, I'll be sure to share it. If you have any specific questions in the meantime, I can probably provide some insight.

[violão]

Oh, and let me add, in response to your final question, that it's OK to dial it back a bit. Sometimes with these girls, although they are really into you, they need a little bit more time to get comfortable hooking up. That's not to say that they won't be down for a first night lay, but if she's not having it right away, you aren't wasting your time. It's just more common to put a little more time into the interaction. Once you've opened the flood gates, however, they'll be wrapped around your finger.

[americanInEurope]

I have J-girl experience but sounds like she's really Americanized. I'm more of a Japanese girl in Japan expert. That's ok, just do what you're doing and sexually escalate accordingly. I will say don't be afraid to touch her and hug her and stuff. J-girls, even Americanized ones, are use to playing up that cute stuff. Don't be afraid to tear her little bunny up with your big fucking bear claws. She wants you to, otherwise she'd not let you touch her. I don't expect you'll get any resistance, but if she does that "no no no" crap in the bed don't be turned by that. Unless she's physically pushing you away from her you need to be gently escalating even if she's saying "no." It's a Japanese thing.

[LowerCaseG]

I dated a late 30's Japanese woman a year give or take. Her overwhelming desire will be to please you. Again, this girl was not Americanized.

Japan is a very male dominated society, especially to women who didn't grow up with the internet and cell phones. Without knowing any facts about her, she would likely have FAR less value in Japan than she would here in the US at her age.

2nd date should be a 100% guaranteed bang.

[MrXY]

(02-09-2012 04:30 PM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

(02-09-2012 04:26 PM)Pilgrim37 Wrote:  

She's a Ladyboy!

How do you know ? were you there ?

If you have nothing constructive to say, say nothing !

LOL, thanks for defending me, Neil.

Actually, I lived in New Orleans for a long time which is a tranny mecca, so I'm well aware of how to spot them.

Thanks to all you guys for the good advice- it's really helpful and I'll keep it in mind as things progress.
Texted a couple of times with her today-maybe i'll set up a date for next week.
I'll do an update if anything interesting happens

[Sebastian]

Yes don't worry about it too much. you might call it 'clingy' but would you rather deal with those american bitches who takes several hours or a day to respond your txt? who will drop you as soon as she finds out you really like her? who act like they are busy even though they are watching tv in pjs?
I am a Give & Take person. When a woman gives me that kind of sweetness, I will return it back.
Let it flow, you don't have to come up with some kind of strategy like 'hm should I ignore this chick for couple days or flake out on her?'

Btw, if she stayed up to high school in Japan, she can't be americanized. From my experience, I am Americanized through my Mind. But when it comes to my Heart, I still belong to where I came from. If she really likes you, she will listen to her heart and act like the person from her country.

[iknowexactly]

(02-10-2012 01:06 AM)Sebastian Wrote:  

you might call it 'clingy' but would you rather deal with those american bitches who takes several hours or a day to respond your txt? who will drop you as soon as she finds out you really like her? who act like they are busy even though they are watching tv in pjs?
I am a Give & Take person. When a woman gives me that kind of sweetness, I will return it back.

+1

Righteous. Tell it, Brother!! As ye sow, so shall ye reap!!!

[Pilgrim37]

(02-09-2012 04:30 PM)Neil Skywalker Wrote:  

(02-09-2012 04:26 PM)Pilgrim37 Wrote:  

She's a Ladyboy!

How do you know ? were you there ?

If you have nothing constructive to say, say nothing !

Skywalker...Grow a sense of humour!

That blog must be stressing you

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Gods, that is like a wet dream. I don't think I've ever met a chick like that. Ah well, there is still hope for traveling to Japan...

[Lumiere]

(02-10-2012 09:07 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

Gods, that is like a wet dream. I don't think I've ever met a chick like that. Ah well, there is still hope for traveling to Japan...

I have. She was Japanese.

One of my Japanese gfs used to give me one hour blow jobs (yes I timed it) on the regular and then say "thank you" afterwards.

I kid you not.

[Laner]

Most Japanese women at that age dont feel fulfilled if they dont have a man to take care of. They are super snuggly people, and they will cook and clean for you, dress very well, and all they ask in return is to be treated like a lady. Let her curl up under your arm. Carry her to bed. Give her a a tiny, worthless gift for no reason and watch her cry.

They are the sweetest women I have ever met. Also very cunning.

[violão]

Aw gosh, this has got me all warm and fuzzy about moving to Japan next month. I'm glad other blokes have had such good experiences with Japanese girls as well.

Plus, the rumors about the tightness... all true.

[MrXY]

Update: Got the bang and my Japanese flag on the third date.

Thanks for the good advice guys

[RedBull]

(03-04-2012 10:29 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

Update: Got the bang and my Japanese flag on the third date.

Thanks for the good advice guys

nice, story?