[adriana_lima_FTW]

theres this girl in my class thats pretty cute. shes given some body language that shes into me. what is the best way to approach her?

[token]

Just talk to her, man. If she's been giving you the kinds of signals that you say she has, chances are she's been hoping you would find the balls to do so anyway.

In the end, it doesn't really matter what you say. Just be confident, have low expectations, and try and have fun with it. Do those things, and you can't go wrong!

[zorgon]

As someone who my whole life (until *very* recently) would totally freeze up even thinking about approaching women, I have to say: it's remarkably painless. There is no trick to it. You walk in her direction, you say "hey" and/or tap on her shoulder to make sure you have her attention, and then you say and/or ask something. That "something" doesn't have to be incredibly clever or funny or anything at all. It basically just has to be an audible, coherent vocalization. (I would, however, avoid classic bad pickup lines along the lines of "nice shoes, wanna f***?". Memorized lines are OK, creepy sexual pickup lines are not.)

And yes, go talk to her. But also go talk to 25 other girls. Even if half of them immediately blow you off and you have just a 2-minute conversation with the other half, you'll learn a bunch in the process. Agree that low expectations are important: do a bunch of approaches with absolutely no intention of any sort of pickup, just a plain old friendly conversation with a girl you are at least mildly attracted to. (Approaching women you are not at all attracted to doesn't count; at that point you might as well just be approaching guys too.) If anything more comes out of it, consider that a bonus.

"25 approaches??" you may ask? Well, 50 or 100 would be even better. I've done at least 25 cold approaches in the last week, and already I'm starting to figure out: hey, this isn't that difficult after all! My whole life I've been freaking out over something this ridiculously easy??? In another few weeks I fully expect that I will be a fearless master of the approach, and will move on to working on improving the next area in my game where I'm having issues.

If I can do it -- and I am about the polar opposite of a "natural" when it comes to women -- then I guarantee you that you can do it.

[Basil Ransom]

Do this: class is ending, time your exit from class to coincide with hers, but don't make it obvious, otherwise she'll get sketched out. Then when you get near her while leaving the class, say "Hey, our professor was hilarious today" or some appropiate comment on the class. Then you're in, you're talking to her.

If it's close to the weekend, as the conversation is drawing to a close, ask her what she's doing on the weekend, and try and invite her to something you'll be doing. I'd shy away from asking her on a date immediately. Instead, you could invite her to say, some event on campus you're already going to with friends. If it goes well, invite her back to your apartment to chill, and have a bottle of wine ready.

The best is if you're having a party at your house, which makes you look generous rather than needy by asking for a date quickly, and a hookup is nearly guaranteed if there's any attraction in the first place.

[duncanidaho]

(09-06-2008 11:53 PM)adriana_lima_FTW Wrote:  

theres this girl in my class thats pretty cute. shes given some body language that shes into me. what is the best way to approach her?

If she looks south american or from some country where Spanish is spoken, walk up and say "ola." She'll then say something back, regardless of what she says or the language, reply with, "habla anglais?" When she says "yes" then say, "good, that's near the limit of my spanish." You've now approached and opened.

If you know she speaks another language, then translate the above into that language. If you're not sure what language she speaks, just walk up and say "hi."