[TheMaleBrain]

Dude

You missed several points:
1. You show emotion - Don't go to the "never show emotion".
You are just not shaken.
2. Laughter in an argument is risky. Use CH commandment #15:

Quote:

You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.

Here are some of the things I do:
- "Mistakes were made" - you acknowledge that something was wrong. But not taking the blame.
- "I understand how you feel" - sometimes she just wants to be heard.
- "You have such strong feelings" - Every women feels that. By pointing it out she is noticed.
- "I understand that it is hard for you. I don't want to hurt you" - you did not apologize, but gave the impression.
If she continues to hammer it, I say "I just acknowledge my mistake. What are you trying to do? are you trying to humiliate me?"
That stops them some of the time.

I don't tolerate disrespect. You may also erupt as a volcano. That's makes a lot of drama and makes her fear you. Has to be once she is into you.