Yo dawg, sorry to read that you didn't get the make out. Don't look for IOIs, just go for it and shrug it off if it doesn't work. Sometimes you'll be surprised just how much a chick is digging you even though she isn't showing much. I actually just got back from a date at a bar. We had a few drinks, shot the shit and made out. She didn't give me many IOIs but I just assume that any woman who is going to drink alcohol with me and spend time with me is trying to create a situation to advance things with me.
My impression from your post: you can dance, you took a girl to dance but you didn't escalate. You're a dancer; this is your realm; Take control. I'm not saying you have to make out on the dance floor, but you can definitely get your kiss and move things forward. That said, don't fret about it. You can find more women beyond her and, in fact, things might actually not be so far gone that you can't get her. However, I think that the longer you make the game, the harder it is to win the game. It's like a fight: the safest fight is one that ends quickly for your opponent. YOu win, they're down and you've not gotten injured. Long fights are bad for the winner and the loser. When it comes to trying to bang a girl, waiting forever to bang a girl is usually not the best idea. I say this as a guy who used to run perpetual orbiter mode and wonder why he couldn't get kisses or bangs.
I see the kiss as a way of screening women: if she won't kiss me on the first date, then she's going to be a pain in the ass most likely.
Think about how many lame dudes take her on boring dates and don't even so much as kiss her. You cannot be those guys, otherwise you're in the lame box. Some of the best advice I got from forum members: play to win. You're not taking girls on dancing dates to get them exercise, you're taking them out so that you can get yourself closer to a bang. Keep that in mind.
For the dudes in this thread: how can I push my dates further on the first date beyond the kiss? I've been on a date a week for the past 3 weeks, but I always wait till the end of the date to go for the kiss. I get the kiss, but by that time the girl is already thinking of heading home to her bed. Do you guys kiss in the middle of the date and then try to escalate them back to your place?
If you want me to make a new thread for this, then I will.
My impression from your post: you can dance, you took a girl to dance but you didn't escalate. You're a dancer; this is your realm; Take control. I'm not saying you have to make out on the dance floor, but you can definitely get your kiss and move things forward. That said, don't fret about it. You can find more women beyond her and, in fact, things might actually not be so far gone that you can't get her. However, I think that the longer you make the game, the harder it is to win the game. It's like a fight: the safest fight is one that ends quickly for your opponent. YOu win, they're down and you've not gotten injured. Long fights are bad for the winner and the loser. When it comes to trying to bang a girl, waiting forever to bang a girl is usually not the best idea. I say this as a guy who used to run perpetual orbiter mode and wonder why he couldn't get kisses or bangs.
I see the kiss as a way of screening women: if she won't kiss me on the first date, then she's going to be a pain in the ass most likely.
Think about how many lame dudes take her on boring dates and don't even so much as kiss her. You cannot be those guys, otherwise you're in the lame box. Some of the best advice I got from forum members: play to win. You're not taking girls on dancing dates to get them exercise, you're taking them out so that you can get yourself closer to a bang. Keep that in mind.
For the dudes in this thread: how can I push my dates further on the first date beyond the kiss? I've been on a date a week for the past 3 weeks, but I always wait till the end of the date to go for the kiss. I get the kiss, but by that time the girl is already thinking of heading home to her bed. Do you guys kiss in the middle of the date and then try to escalate them back to your place?
If you want me to make a new thread for this, then I will.
I will be checking my PMs weekly, so you can catch me there. I will not be posting.