Quote: (01-27-2015 03:46 PM)NKTexas Wrote:
I ceded too much in our relationship and allowed her to run things, for example and only one of many examples - she took control of the interior decor of our house.
You're beating yourself up over THAT?? Irrespective of what some of the younger or less experienced posters here may say, being seen as controlling to your woman is a quick way to get divorced. DOMINANT, yes - controlling, no. And being dominant means taking charge of the BIG things in your life - finances, etc. But you HAVE to give them some small area of control, or you demoralize them and are seen as a tyrant. It's like how kids get SOME say in their life: What color of PJs they want to wear to bed or what stuffed animal they take in the car. You have to keep them engaged. Well as Schopenhauer observed, women have a mentality somewhere between children and adult males. You need to give them SOMETHING to make them feel they matter; interior decoration is a perfect thing.