Quote: (01-16-2015 01:04 PM)XXL Wrote:
Personally competition gets me switched on and engaged.
It's not even about the girl or the prize at the end or our status. To me it's all about winning with the other guy. Even when I play pool or bowling with my good buddy and we compete for something I feel more engaged and totally focused on beating him. There are no logical thoughts, no calculations of my chances or judging our statuses/skills. None of that. Just pure urge to outgame him and dominate.
Few times I got the girl not because I wanted her per se but because I wanted to win with some other guy. Kind of strange but I really felt that way. I remember one guy told me that his whole philosophy was like this.. "if not me then someone else [will get the girl/job/prize/etc].. so why not me?". Simple as that.
That's exactly what I mean. In my mind I'm always competing with others. But when it comes to girls, taller, better looking, rich dudes with status beat me, no doubt. What pisses me off is that even game can not beat the tall, handsome guy when we compete for the same girl...
The only way is to not compete with him, but I feel like I'm losing since I'm running from the challenge. Like you are in a street fight, you are skinny an he's a big bulky guy. Even if you know martial arts, you can't put him down with a punch because your punch is very low....so to live, you need to run or give up.
That's the thing I'm talking about. There are things that we can't control that makes other better in some areas if we are going to compete with them. That's why I'm asking what mindset others have, or they just don't care if the girl who are gaming for hours and other girls jump on the handsome guys that just entered the room...and you wasted your time, effort for nothing while the other guys just needed to enter the room.