I'm interested to see what iknowexactly has to say on this.
I like Magnum's approach; bringing up celebrity gossip where cheating or whatever happened can be a great way to feel her out on where she stands. As Gmac mentioned, women lie and so don't put too much weight in what she says but rather learn to read her emotional responses. I've been reading Unmasking the Face and so far it looks like a must-read for any player. The skills it teaches can improve every stage of your game - http://www.amazon.com/Unmasking-Face-Rec...1883536367
Personally I look for empathy. It's a great predictor of how attuned she will be to my needs, wants and likes. Being able to strongly understand and empathise with others' needs and emotions makes a girl more considerate and less likely to hurt you. Empathy is one of the most important feminine personality traits.
My best LTRs anticipated when I was hungry, knew what I liked and prepared me foods and snacks. They enjoyed doing so. It wasn't a chore, they took pleasure in it. They gave me presents because they shared in my joy at receiving them. This is rooted in empathy.
How do you spot girls with strong empathy?
Does she feel genuinely sorry for the less fortunate? Does she flinch when you're watching a film and some poor guy gets his brains blown out? Is she kind to people who are below her in the social pecking order? Is she nice to animals? (Not always solid, some of the most solipsistic bitches I've known fawned over and loved dogs). Is she disparaging about her friends' problems? Does she gossip about her friends in a negative way a lot? Does she want to help her friends who have problems or does she take pleasure in their misery?
How does she treat her family? How does she talk about her family? Is she understanding of their problems or is she self centered when talking about her interactions with them?
I like Magnum's approach; bringing up celebrity gossip where cheating or whatever happened can be a great way to feel her out on where she stands. As Gmac mentioned, women lie and so don't put too much weight in what she says but rather learn to read her emotional responses. I've been reading Unmasking the Face and so far it looks like a must-read for any player. The skills it teaches can improve every stage of your game - http://www.amazon.com/Unmasking-Face-Rec...1883536367
Personally I look for empathy. It's a great predictor of how attuned she will be to my needs, wants and likes. Being able to strongly understand and empathise with others' needs and emotions makes a girl more considerate and less likely to hurt you. Empathy is one of the most important feminine personality traits.
My best LTRs anticipated when I was hungry, knew what I liked and prepared me foods and snacks. They enjoyed doing so. It wasn't a chore, they took pleasure in it. They gave me presents because they shared in my joy at receiving them. This is rooted in empathy.
How do you spot girls with strong empathy?
Does she feel genuinely sorry for the less fortunate? Does she flinch when you're watching a film and some poor guy gets his brains blown out? Is she kind to people who are below her in the social pecking order? Is she nice to animals? (Not always solid, some of the most solipsistic bitches I've known fawned over and loved dogs). Is she disparaging about her friends' problems? Does she gossip about her friends in a negative way a lot? Does she want to help her friends who have problems or does she take pleasure in their misery?
How does she treat her family? How does she talk about her family? Is she understanding of their problems or is she self centered when talking about her interactions with them?
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