Quote: (12-20-2014 07:53 PM)Mister X Wrote:
I need someone to tell me what the benefits of using OKC/POF/etc are now that we have apps like Tinder.
Most girls seem to understand that Tinder is a hookup app. Look at the Tinder thread or the just had sex thread to see how many first and second date lays guys rack up on Tinder. Whereas with legit dating sites, you have to weed through girls who are there for relationships and exclusivity and all that. So from a quantity perspective, Tinder will likely yield you more results, at a faster pace.
It's a lot easier to write 2-3 sentences in your Tinder profile, than it is to try to make a carefully worded online dating profile that tries to make you look interesting, or fun, or funny, or whatever.
Swiping on Tinder is a breeze and getting matches assures you that you at least have a shot if you have game. As opposed to writing individual openers and sending them to girls, or if you're one for canned openers, still takes longer to do it girl to girl than it does to swipe and only be able to open up girls you matched with.
The easiness of Tinder comes with a curse... it's much tougher to separate yourself from the average boring, inarticulate moron. On OKCupid, I can send out individualized messages + write a creative/interesting profile, and that will at least make me stand out enough to be carefully considered by every girl I message. When the quality was reasonable I managed to carve out a niche with highly educated/intelligent girls this way.
With Tinder, on the other hand, girls just swipe left rapid fire and go right once in awhile on a guy they find exceptionally hot. It's a boon for guys in the top 10% in terms of looks, but shit for the vast majority of guys. I use a main photo that hardly ever lost on that MyBestFace thing (a non-selfie that shows off muscles is gold), but I still find matches pretty tough to come by.
tl;dr - Unless you're outrageously good-looking, Tinder's style will kill your chances.