Quote: (12-13-2014 07:32 PM)bigbait Wrote:
Quote: (12-12-2014 05:19 PM)General Mayhem Wrote:
Quote: (12-11-2014 06:52 PM)Griprip08 Wrote:
I'm going to be completely honest here, and it pains me as man to even admit it, but it didn't happen. I waited till about 11 and went to the gym. She texts me just as I get there and goes "Let me know if you still want me to come over..." to which I reply "at the gym, but yeah come over" She says "I have work at 3, when should I come over", me "Just come over right before work" her "what time do you want me there haha"......aannddd I didn't respond till about 2PM (takes her 20 to get to my place) so she essentially ran out of time. Idk If it's just normal to have girls consistently ask for confirmation, but I would have hoped she just would have showed up after getting the "yeah come over" (ASD? Plausible Deniability?). I guess this girl really needs me to lead her all the way to my zipper step-by-step. (again, wouldn't be surprised as most do).
I'm assuming you waited for her to text you first.
At the end I think you recognized your own problem. You hopped in the passenger seat and hoped she would drive.
"Let me know if you still want me to come over..."
Translation: "Tell me when to come over so we can fuck."
At that point all you had to do was give her a time.
"Idk If it's just normal to have girls consistently ask for confirmation."
Only when you fail to lead them. She keeps asking because your answers are weak and passive. "I'm at the gym, but yeah come over" doesn't cut it in this pretext. That doesn't give her the information she needs to hear, and that's why she keeps asking.
Channel your inner Don: "Finishing up at the gym. Come over at noon."
This is a strong statement full of information. It lets her know that your Parents will be gone/Grandma will be asleep/Roommates will be at work, dog will be fed, etc, and you will be ready to see her.
IMO, you have to get in a leader's mindset i.e. nothing is going to happen unless you make it happen.
You don't have to lead with everything. But you ALWAYS need to lead with logistics because it is the most basic form of leadership. You are running point on this operation.
I disagree.
You should strive to be the leader in the your interactions with people. I'm not saying that you have to call every shot, that is just overbearing.
Having a leaders mindset is knowing that every time you walk through the door you have the power to change the energy of the room. Same goes for setting the tone of the relationship, it's all on you. Most people aren't leaders and they will follow your lead.