Quote: (10-16-2014 01:23 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:
@ruin It would but good luck with that: training women, especially American women.
It's definitely doable. Most of the women I've been with have changed themselves significantly for me, and many were Americans. I believe there is a substantial life expectancy to these changes as well because I can still observe these changes in their lives years after we've broken up.
That said, I think it has to be more than just a "demanding" type of frame. You have to be a leader who can get people to come around to your way of thinking by convincing them that your approach is a more legitimate one. I also find that leading by example pays greater dividends than guilt-tripping or demanding she act a certain way, though you can still do a bit of the latter two in small doses.
If they change to please you AND because they come to believe what you expect is the right thing, the changes stick. I don't have decades of marriage experience to base this on, however, so perhaps take it with whatever grain of salt you will.
I'll also add that many American women are still dying for a man to lead them if you're up for the challenge. They may not realize it, but once they have it they seem to find it refreshing.
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"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling