Quote: (10-06-2014 12:40 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:
Quote: (09-24-2014 10:10 AM)Captain Ahab Wrote:
Also, as much as I “don’t give a fuck.” I get annoyed every time I tell a coworker that I’m hitting a bar to swoop some college chicks and he/she says that I’m too old to be dating young girls. One coworker, in his 40s, really made an issue of it “What do you have to say to an eighteen year old?” And called me a pervert. *sigh* I should have known better. The guy has three daughters.
But again, inner game. My belief is that there are plenty of young women who would LOVE to be with me. Let the losers worry about losing. I’m going forward with what I want out of life.
Shout out to El Mechanico, Giovinny, Moma, OGNORTHCAL, iknowexactly, oldnemesis (r.i.p), and all the other players that helped me get to this point. I finally (finally), feel ready to tackle this endeavor once and for all.
I’m going out tonight to see what damage I can do. I’ll will be posting my journey here.
Haha thanks for the shout out Captain Ahab, good to see you posting on here again. I think I can relate to you a lot since we are about the same age, and I have dealt with all of your issues, to the point where it's kind of uncanny because I feel like I am reading something I wrote about myself in your posts.
I'm pretty sure before I have given you the same advice, (good advice that's a million X easier said than done), you need to start to work on and learn how to NOT GIVE A FUCK!!
I know when you have extreme anxiety issues or are very introverted, this can be a tough thing to actually do and live, but what you got to realize is that you cock block yourself mentally by letting your issues get the best of you, and you have nothing to lose by going out there and trying.
Mystery used to tell his students, "so what you get rejected by a girl, what's the big deal, what really bad is going to happen to you... Nothing. You aren't going to be physically harmed, you aren't going to lose your house, your car, your job, you're not going to die."
Being rejected sucks, no one likes the feeling, it can sting for sure, but in all reality it's pretty insignificant occurrance, and while in your head you might make it out to be a big deal it's really not. No one is paying attention and seeing or caring if you bombed with a chick, everyone is in their own worlds.
As far as what you wrote about your co-worker hating on you for trying to mack on college girls, that dude is just jealous and hating, because he's married to some women who probably isn't attractive and gives him a ton of shit, and he secretly desires hot young college girls, but knows he will never get them. Don't pay attention to people like this, even if they make up much of mainstream society. Mainstream society is lame, and you don't want to be anything like them.
From what people wrote before you are a good looking guy and in good shape, you're obviously very intelligent, you just need a bit more self confidence, you need to let go of your inhibitions, and just overcome your anxieties and fears. Just remember, you have nothing to lose, so what if some 22 year old 7 at the bar rejects you, she's just one of hundreds of girls and multiple bars that you could hit up that night. She's nothing, she's insignificant, she's just one of many bees, buzzing around the bee hive. Your job is not let the sting of a couple rejections, prevent you from getting the honey.
Hey, OG is still alive. Glad to see some of the old guard is still around.
Are you still in the bay area? How are things in your neck of the woods?
I am glad you chimed in since we have similar backgrounds. You tend to be an intellectual man with a taste of urban. You can understand where I am coming from.
I agree with everything you said, especially in regards to learning not to give a "fuck." I am totally out of the mainstream. The American model isn't applicable to me, that is for sure.
I will focus on seeing what I like and making an opportunity to go after it. I have to get over my rejection issues and there is no way of doing it better than putting myself head on, feet to the fire.
The first lesson I want to internalize is NEVER BE AFRAID TO CRASH AND BURN! Much easier said than done but it is a priority, almost the cornerstone of having success with picking up women.
I agree that I don't need much more-I got a job, looks, good physique. Plenty of guys have less and do far more.
Make a plan and execute. I'm going out this Saturday to a party at the University of Florida-EDM rave event. I need to make something happen, even if I get a bunch of nos. I can't let life keep on slipping by.
Hope all is well on your end.