[robreke]

(10-04-2014 10:41 AM)robreke Wrote:  

(10-03-2014 06:18 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(10-03-2014 05:23 PM)robreke Wrote:  

anyone ever "saved" a relationship by saying this. I guess it smacks of desperation in a sense.

Let's say a girl you enjoy banging and may or may not love is deciding to drift away for whatever reason. Whisper, " I love you" in her ear or tell her straight up.

Any body have actual success....keeping a girl around longer..... using these words ? ( before the girl utters them that is )

Absolutely not, like you said it wreaks of desperation. There is nothing remotely successful for her

If she's drifting away, then it's been over before you even realized that.

Reason I asked....I just started to "re date" this girl I'd been on the outs with for a few weeks again.......of my rotation she's the main one I liked who recently told me she was going to give her ex long time boyfriend another chance. I was like...ok ....hit me up if it doesn't work.

Well, she let me come to her place the other night after telling me. I was kissing on her and stuff and she was letting me and towards end of night was kissing back and saying she was still "crazy about me" etc.......but no sexual escalation (fwiw I know her period is about now)

As we were hugging goodbye she said "I really do miss you" I figured it was over at this point anyway and threw the long ball . I whispered in her ear "I love you babe" She said....why are you telling me now??? As if I should have mentioned it earlier.

I said 'would it have mattered if I told you before' She said "it might haaave" Then we 'talked' a bit more.

She said she's going to think about everything including how she now knows I "feel about her" over the weekend. So, I'm not really expecting much....but I thought I'd throw it out there because she's a great girl and wanted to keep her in my rotation.

I texted her the next day something and she texted right back "I was actually just thinking about you when I got the text"

I'm not sure if I do love her.....but like I say.....she was on her way out the door with this other guy she's got more history with. So....I dropped the I love you bomb. I didn't deeply stare in her eyes and make it some weepy moment....but did, like I say, whisper in her ear to let her know. Oh well, cards are on the table....we'll see if it does anything.