Quote: (07-06-2014 11:16 PM)AfgScarface Wrote:
Quote: (07-06-2014 07:58 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:
They just don't want to hear it, and somehow interpret talking about "feelings" as weakness. I know, I know: they say just the opposite. They say they want us to "share" all these emotional intimacies, but once you do that, you're screwed. In reality they don't like to hear men reveal too much of themselves.
You can try, and under some circumstances, you can succeed. But my experience is that, for the vast majority, they will end up somehow using that against you at some future date. Any hint, any suggestion of non-masculine behavior will work against you.
Lets say you let things like this slip to a LTR during an earlier blue pill era. What should you do differently in order to counteract or offset revealing so much of yourself during a past time? Is there even a way to counter act such utterings in the first place? A way to run "damage control" so to speak?
The best answer I can come up with is to do a version of what Anonymous Bosch said above. You just have to operate under the assumption that revealing your private inner thoughts will somehow be used against you, or thrown in your face, at some future date. Even when I've just casually mentioned the good and bad points of old GFs to some girls, it has gotten me in trouble.
You want to spill your guts? Do it here, or with your dog, or with one of your male buddies.
Chicks just love to read shit into every little thing. (As I would say in Portugues to one garota: the complicacoes and implicacoes of every bloody thing. They always read more into what is said than should be there. And they forgive and forget nothing. Remember that.
Women just can't help it. I wish I had a better answer for you, and you'd think that after all these years of short and long-term relationships, that I'd have a better answer. But the only thing that works is just to remind yourself constantly of these points:
1. Let them spill their guts to you, not the other way around. They love to whine and vent, and you can just nod. Being a good listener has gotten me laid far more often anything I've ever actually said.
2. No kiss and tell about old GFs.
3. Master the art of pretending to reveal deep things by telling stories and anecdotes about people other than yourself. Better yet, just grunting and nodding may be better.
4. As Bosch said above, frustration equals attraction. It is a proven fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are UNCLEAR. Remember that.
But in the end, this is a real tough area of game, because it comes down to relationship game. And it's a natural feeling to want to talk and share, at some point anyway. But you've got to be careful.