Posted this over at CMQ's blog, but I thought it was relevant to share here:
I think all competent men think they may actually not be so good, even frauds of a kind. It comes with the territory of being a leader (out in front of followers). From the point of view of keeping oneself honest, this kind of anxiety serves a purpose: it can give you strength in your efforts of striving to be better, as opposed to wishing the game was easier. I find the majority of my approach anxiety stems from the realization I'm alone in this approach. Recognizing this helps me manage the fear of the approach.
But, there are other kinds of anxiety that just create friction in the gears, even a persistent kind of punishment system: most commonly internalized in the form of terminal approach anxiety or oneitis.
DO NOT let this kind of anxiety get woven into your character and become a talisman for why you can’t get laid. Understanding the difference + applying the law of abundance might help take your game to the next level.
I think all competent men think they may actually not be so good, even frauds of a kind. It comes with the territory of being a leader (out in front of followers). From the point of view of keeping oneself honest, this kind of anxiety serves a purpose: it can give you strength in your efforts of striving to be better, as opposed to wishing the game was easier. I find the majority of my approach anxiety stems from the realization I'm alone in this approach. Recognizing this helps me manage the fear of the approach.
But, there are other kinds of anxiety that just create friction in the gears, even a persistent kind of punishment system: most commonly internalized in the form of terminal approach anxiety or oneitis.
DO NOT let this kind of anxiety get woven into your character and become a talisman for why you can’t get laid. Understanding the difference + applying the law of abundance might help take your game to the next level.