Quote: (07-27-2011 06:09 PM)Samseau Wrote:
1. The advice is geared to MiXX, who has money
This is different kind of money. Asking someone to commit for 18 years to live with you and play the kid mother is not going to be cheap. Don't expect to pay regular babysitter $20/hr rate (and even on that rate you're paying 20*24*365 = $175K/year)
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2. Why wouldn't the kid think the nanny is his mother? At a young age he'll never know, and when he gets older you can just tell him the nanny is his "step-mother".
1. I find it extremely unlikely that someone would commit to raise a kid for 18 years. This is basically crossing out 18 years out of one's life for nothing but money. She is not tied to this kid, so if she meets someone, or wants her own kids, she is out and there is little to nothing you can do.
2. When your kid has problems, only the mother would have the tolerance to work on them. Even potty training is very frustrating, and I'm not even saying about things like cancer, when you have to soothe a screaming kid in pain 24/7. Considering 1) a nanny may decide that even all money in the world is not worth it.
3. There is a lot of things happening in front of the kid which only the actual parents can do - for example, signing consent forms for every medical procedure such as vaccines. So he'll know pretty soon.
Those three are basically a dealbreaker.