Sounds to me like you got in your own way. Things were going well when you were just acting natural, "not putting any effort" in, but once you started trying to get the girl, you fell apart. Putting pressure on yourself isn't helpful.
The way to fight it is to remove the desire to get with a particular girl. Game girls in general, don't fixate, and proceed with the girls with whom things are going well while dropping the ones that aren't. If I am gaming some chick and I'm out of things to say, I don't force it because if I do, I'm sure to screw it up. She'll provide opportunities if she's into you, and if you pull back without stepping on your dick and she doesn't make any effort to chase you, she wasn't into you anyway.
You waited way too long to escalate. I would be cautious at work, but you should've invited her to do something outside work at the first office party or the next week. Invite her into your frame, escalate from there.
Fearlessness comes in part from an abundance mentality. There are plenty of chicks out there so who cares if you blow it with the one in front of you? You'll blow it many more times than not, so you might as well get used to it.
Also, fuck that "out of your league" thinking. If a girl's smoking hot and that intimidates you, focus on a physical flaw, imagine her without makeup, whatever it takes to knock her off the pedestal. You'll get over it with more exposure.
The way to fight it is to remove the desire to get with a particular girl. Game girls in general, don't fixate, and proceed with the girls with whom things are going well while dropping the ones that aren't. If I am gaming some chick and I'm out of things to say, I don't force it because if I do, I'm sure to screw it up. She'll provide opportunities if she's into you, and if you pull back without stepping on your dick and she doesn't make any effort to chase you, she wasn't into you anyway.
You waited way too long to escalate. I would be cautious at work, but you should've invited her to do something outside work at the first office party or the next week. Invite her into your frame, escalate from there.
Fearlessness comes in part from an abundance mentality. There are plenty of chicks out there so who cares if you blow it with the one in front of you? You'll blow it many more times than not, so you might as well get used to it.
Also, fuck that "out of your league" thinking. If a girl's smoking hot and that intimidates you, focus on a physical flaw, imagine her without makeup, whatever it takes to knock her off the pedestal. You'll get over it with more exposure.