Quote: (07-06-2011 09:12 AM)Theogreat Wrote:
@Diablo I think most black men in this forum fail to understand that most women want to date and marry within their own race, in fact most people do that. Especially latianas their culture is strong, marrying out is frowned upon especially to a black man. I think that most non black women don't want to have to explain to their family why their dating a black guy or being stared at in public or having kids that will looking nothing like them and be called black. I think this why you have two types of non black women that date/marry black men. The unattractive ones because they have nothing to lose and is getting a man that is way more attractive then she ever could get within her own race. Then you got the gold diggers they date/marry a certain type of black man(well off to rich) because the monetary returns outweigh any ostracization that she might face within society.
I don't at all that we fail to understand this. I think every black man in the forum reading this agrees with what you said above and knows this all too well and the constraints it puts on our life options, esp for us guys that don't live in cities like Atlanta, DC or Detroit where it's like 90% black. What we're trying to figure out here is strategies we can employ both at home and abroad to transcend the race/dating barrier. Especially for us black guys that aren't light-skinned Vin Diesel types. As Athlone mentioned before, women set a bar of entry. The bar may be set low for white guys to who she may give a wide degree of latitude, and at the same time she may set the bar so high for black men that very few can make it over.
I do occasionally see a black guy with an attractive non-black girl who doesn't have a gold-digger vibe. I'm sure there are a small percent of women who truly don't give a fuck about race or what others think and judge every man on a case by case basis. I just don't know how numerous such women are, but every non-black woman I've ever dated has fit that mold. They just didn't care, or in some cases, they just had a physical preference for black guys.