OP, I have the same exact issue. Sometimes it's hard to tell if you're just rationalizing away your opportunities or if you really don't like someone.
I know this girl who is very attractive, fun to be around and smart enough to actually hold an interesting conversation. I knew her from before I had ever seen her in a bar, then one night I see her out and she was flirty and giving me plenty of IOIs. But I missed my chance and nothing happened, and now I see her at the bar every week with a different guy. I don't feel any urge to hit on her when I see her with someone else, but I still think about her afterwards. Hard to tell if I'm trusting my instincts (she's a slut, don't put in too much effort) or if my ego is getting bruised (she's with someone else, fuck her). I'm leaning towards ego. I've fucked plenty of slutty girls, and I'll fuck plenty more, might as well go for one of the few who caught my interest for more than one night.
I think the reality of life in 2014 is that we're going to have to deal with slutty, selfish, narcissistic girls. That's not negotiable. Might as well just accept it and make the best of it.
I know this girl who is very attractive, fun to be around and smart enough to actually hold an interesting conversation. I knew her from before I had ever seen her in a bar, then one night I see her out and she was flirty and giving me plenty of IOIs. But I missed my chance and nothing happened, and now I see her at the bar every week with a different guy. I don't feel any urge to hit on her when I see her with someone else, but I still think about her afterwards. Hard to tell if I'm trusting my instincts (she's a slut, don't put in too much effort) or if my ego is getting bruised (she's with someone else, fuck her). I'm leaning towards ego. I've fucked plenty of slutty girls, and I'll fuck plenty more, might as well go for one of the few who caught my interest for more than one night.
I think the reality of life in 2014 is that we're going to have to deal with slutty, selfish, narcissistic girls. That's not negotiable. Might as well just accept it and make the best of it.