Quote: (03-17-2014 09:22 AM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:
Quote: (03-17-2014 07:07 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:
I had an empty feeling when I had one nighters so I got in relationships. That left me empty and feeling I should be dating around.
I had an empty feeling dating around, so I got married. That left me empty, feeling the whole world was out there having more fun.
I had an empty feeling when I got divorced and now look back wistfully on the nice house we used to have that someone else lives in.
I had an empty feeling working my butt off. When I achieved a big goal, I had an empty feeling because I missed the struggle and security of being immersed in my work and not having to think of bigger issues.
The fault is not in our situations, but in ourselves. If you feel empty in one situation, odds are you'll feel it elsewhere. I'd recommend figuring out what your deeper issue is before you make costly mistakes.
I have a vivid memory of turning 20, having a one-nighter with a woman I was dying to bang, then driving home on Route 29 north on the way back from DC, thinking to myself "Is that all there is?" and feeling suicidal and daydreaming about driving into oncoming traffic.
In retrospect, the problem wasn't the one-nigher(s) but me. Looking back, I should have been enjoying the moment. I was young! People liked me! She had great boobs and was 19!! When will that come around again?! But I was dealing with serious underlying issues of depression and anxiety that nothing solved -- not time, nor maturity, not marriage, not divorce, not success, not achieving any goal. Shame it took decades for me to get this.
Deal with the larger issue, whatever it is, not the one-nighters.
Real Shit!!! Same reason why some wealthy folk take their own lives. From the outside, they have everything, but inside they're fucked up and tormented.
Completely agree. Try to slow down and enjoy the ride.