"I went with her at around 8, came back home around 12 (client presentation today, so couldn't stay over). "
Red Flag.
Your girl thought it'd be more fun and fulfilling to stay out late and drink, instead of go home with you.
She made that choice. She's probably been making that choice. But she hasn't always made that choice.
Every time i've been in that situation, months down the line, she'll continue to make that choice and eventually chooses someone else or something else.
If this is your girlfriend, you have something to lose, something at stake. If this is just some random chick that you're fucking, you shouldn't care.
But when she gets the fun of going out, drinking, and flirting plus the safety of a relationship with a dude who'd rather be responsible than drink, she wins. She's in an advantageous position that allows her to indulge every whim.
And you by your actions or inaction allow it.
Now you face a dilemma.
A) If you do all the shit that she always wants to do 1) you don't do your own shit, 2) she thinks you're a push over.
Or
B) You keep a chick on a tight leash, in which case - she gets the attention she craves, but you don't get any relief from being a baby sitter.
This is one of the many burdens of a relationship. You have to keep upping the level of her mental commitment and involvement with you if you want to keep it going.
Like to hear from the rest of the Vets out there to tell me where I'm making my mental error.
WIA
Red Flag.
Your girl thought it'd be more fun and fulfilling to stay out late and drink, instead of go home with you.
She made that choice. She's probably been making that choice. But she hasn't always made that choice.
Every time i've been in that situation, months down the line, she'll continue to make that choice and eventually chooses someone else or something else.
If this is your girlfriend, you have something to lose, something at stake. If this is just some random chick that you're fucking, you shouldn't care.
But when she gets the fun of going out, drinking, and flirting plus the safety of a relationship with a dude who'd rather be responsible than drink, she wins. She's in an advantageous position that allows her to indulge every whim.
And you by your actions or inaction allow it.
Now you face a dilemma.
A) If you do all the shit that she always wants to do 1) you don't do your own shit, 2) she thinks you're a push over.
Or
B) You keep a chick on a tight leash, in which case - she gets the attention she craves, but you don't get any relief from being a baby sitter.
This is one of the many burdens of a relationship. You have to keep upping the level of her mental commitment and involvement with you if you want to keep it going.
Like to hear from the rest of the Vets out there to tell me where I'm making my mental error.
WIA