@amistod, I want to echo what these other fellas are already telling you. If you leave this girl, you may regret it for a few weeks--basically the period it would take for you get your life straightened out. If you don't: you will regret it for many years. By then, you may have wasted your peak years on a girl you already don't find attractive. Your peak years are now, hers are behind her.
Move on with no hesitation. Not to sound harsh, but: if you've gone so far as to seek the advice of this group, it's already over. Every additional day is a waste.
When you start losing your resolve, watch this:
This is a solid story, Fisto; one that I think repeats itself more often than we'd like to admit. Sometimes we try to force something because we finally find something "different" or we want to pull out of the game for a while. But the boner, as we all know, never lies.
@amistod: Follow it. It knows more than you realize.
That Solomon post captures, in a few scant paragraphs, reams (and years) of writing on this subject. The numbers are accurate and bear out in dozens of examples, just off the top my head.
@amistod: Twenty-nine is not old for you. Don't project her life stage on your age. Men and women are different, though they want you--at all costs--to believe otherwise.
Move on with no hesitation. Not to sound harsh, but: if you've gone so far as to seek the advice of this group, it's already over. Every additional day is a waste.
When you start losing your resolve, watch this:
Quote: (04-29-2011 03:54 PM)Fisto Wrote:
I was in a ltr with a girl that was gorgeous although too thin for me. She is a great person and I loved her dearly but for the life of me, I did not want to fuck her.
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Don't keep tomorrowing yourself with this girl, you're going to lose another summer and it's going to be mediocre at best if you don't let her go. You have to be physically attracted to a girl or at least enjoy the way she looks.
This is a solid story, Fisto; one that I think repeats itself more often than we'd like to admit. Sometimes we try to force something because we finally find something "different" or we want to pull out of the game for a while. But the boner, as we all know, never lies.
@amistod: Follow it. It knows more than you realize.
Quote: (04-29-2011 06:09 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
You're stuck in the Marriage Zone, and she's making the most of that fact and trying to lock it in now.
This post from Solomon speaks to your situation(and the potential you have that you don't realize) perfectly. Read it.
That Solomon post captures, in a few scant paragraphs, reams (and years) of writing on this subject. The numbers are accurate and bear out in dozens of examples, just off the top my head.
@amistod: Twenty-nine is not old for you. Don't project her life stage on your age. Men and women are different, though they want you--at all costs--to believe otherwise.