Quote: (09-24-2013 09:01 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:
The most valuable game lesson I have learned is this: create your own world with your own rules and expectations for how everything should work, and how people should behave around you. Live in your world, not a world created by someone else.
Writing your own ticket, so to speak, is incredibly powerful. The question becomes not “who is going to let me?” but instead “who is going to stop me?” You can do anything you want with this mentality, and it causes you to challenge long established beliefs.
I've thought about this long and hard, and tried a dozen different techniques, but I think the magic bullet to get girls over is this: there is no magic bullet. No false pretenses, no setting up plausible deniability, no one liners, no bait and switch, no shadiness, no routines. Just: “do you want to come by for drinks later” That’s it. It's forward, it engages the girl, and it cuts out the bullshit.
Four Common Scenarios:
Best case:
You: “Hey what you up to later, we should chill.”
Her: “Sure. I’m free after 8”
You: “Want to come by my place for a drink at 9, I’ve got some new recipes” (You're baiting and switching here but done well)
Her: “Okay”
You: “Text me when you’re heading out and I can give you directions”
Her: “Will do”
I like the idea of offering a partially deniable fuck option. If you think about it, you're offering her a better alternative to masturbation -- no one knows about it, but it's real sex. And it can evolve into something way better than masturbation.
I've got a meeting set up Friday, I'm going to combine Samseau's no make-out plan with yours.
I vote +1 on the "create your own world[view] idea, but your provocative essay falls short when attacking an undefined idea of "romance."
Romance is almost as bad as the idea of God in that every person that thinks of it thinks of something different.
For instance, thinking about someone when you're not with them is romantic in my view, and I think it's great for a girl to think about you when you're not around. So why is "romance" bad then?
Your good idea will be better if you break down what aspects of romance are bad for moving the relationship along.