Quote: (04-18-2011 09:15 PM)Thorne Wrote:
I don't mess with people that are involved. For me sleeping with a married woman on the night she decides to sleep with some other dude, more than morally wrong, is lacking self-respect for men in general. I hate the concept of the horny drooling guy waiting for the easiest opportunity, and so any chick that decides to do it, knows there'll be a sucker she can count on (like she is an item on sale that we just gotta buy), let alone the pain that guy is helping inflict on the married dude. I know it's complicated because you can never know initially if a woman is telling the truth or not, but that's why I'm trying to get involved with chicks that I have real connection with, and it means sometimes not sleeping on the first night. It's not morals, it's investing a little bit more so you get a bit more rewarded. Chicks now just because they're phisically hot are not enough for me nowadays.
Even if for me personally sexual fidelity is something we need to evolve out of (unless children are in the agenda), you need to respect the other people's choices. If you don't it's like pushing your religion on other people. And if it you put yourself in the other dude's shoes and you don't like it, then there's no reason to do it at all. All my friends now are married or with an LTR and I happen to have chemistry with a lot of their girls (I've always been the bachelor that doesn't settle down, good dancer, etc. so I've always gotten attention from them), but I know my friends would never accept it, so there's no way I'll do it.
But when it does happen what I do, even if it's awkward, is ask the guy directly if it's ok to date the ex (also if you're a good friend you should know more or less how he'd feel about it to even ask). We guys need to be still upfront and deal with things like men.
I'll admit it's a line very hard to draw sometimes, but when in doubt I prefer not to do it. Sexual desire shouldn't be such a big thing that derails us from the important things (which we also need to figure out for each one of us)
Friends and family-never! However married women are often particularly straight-up and freaky thus rewarding so I don't say no.
Cupcake is either a young girl or a homo! It hasn't become an active troll and it should stay for a while,if only to see how men behave.