Quote: (09-01-2013 09:42 PM)CJ Wrote:
My most effective strategy for going solo was:
1. Find a bar that draws a decent sized crowd.
2. Post up close to or preferably right AT the bar.
3. Wait for girls to come up and order their drinks.
4. Run your game while they're waiting for their drink.
You can do tons of approaches this way without ever leaving your spot. Just make sure you tip well, so the bartender is cool with you and what you're doing. Even if you don't end up pulling straight from the bar while you're sitting there, you should have several solid options to re-engage later on when your targets are likely less inhibited.
+1. It's amazing how long it took me to get it into my head that this is really all you have to fucking do.
When I first started going alone to places, I would get weirded out posting up at the same spot and not doing anything but hollering at girls for hours at a time (or talking to bartenders, but if there's a good-size crowd at a place there's a good chance they'll be busy). I would psyche myself out and convince myself that I had to go to a different part of the bar or change venues altogether in order to avoid being labeled "that guy."
Well guess what, I started sticking to my spot anyway and I saw no evidence whatsoever that anybody thought that other than myself. The bitchy questions from girls I imagined asking why I was standing there hitting on everything within 5 feet of me never came.
As long as there's a decent number of people at a place, nobody knows or cares about you posting up at the bar calmly sipping your drink. When girls come up next to me to order their drink, 90% of the time they weren't aware of my existence until I tapped them on the shoulder and hit them with my opener, even though I've literally been standing there all goddamn night. (And think about it, even if they did see you hitting on girls and had a problem with it, do you think they would then stand right next to you at the bar to order a drink?)
Trust me, it really is all in your head. I've been there, been just as skeptical as anyone, and been proven wrong. Just find your spot to post up, get your drink, tip well, and approach as desired. You are not that guy, unless you mean that guy who's about to get his dick wet.
This video by Roosh has some more great tips on this: