So first a little background. I'm 41 years old and been living in Medellin, Colombia since the end of last year. I'm not really a player, more of a one woman person. I originally planned on settling in Medellin but realized I really don't like it here and I need to find somewhere else to live.
For the past couple of months, I've been hanging out with a 24 year old med student. She's a friend of my housemate's fiance. Because she's a med student we only see each other once or twice a week and things have progressed slowly.
Last weekend, she was willing to have sex with me but I couldn't bring myself to do it at least partially cause I hadn't told her that I was planning on leaving Medellin in about 5 weeks. I wanted her to be able to make an informed decision about what she wanted to do. Fast forward to this weekend...I finally broke the news to her during dinner. She seemed to take it in stride, just asked me a few questions about where I was planning on going and that was it.
We went back to my place, were making out, had some foreplay, I broke out the condom. I figured she knows what the score is so if she's willing to have sex with me, I'm going for it. But I was having problems staying hard and couldn't get inside of her. More foreplay and I broke out a second condom. Still no success. Fast forward to condom #3. Still nothing. At which point she said to me "btw, it might be a bit difficult cause I'm a virgin". Shit! Definitely didn't see that coming!
As I said, she's 24 (nearly 25), hasn't lived with her parents since she was about 20, and probably about a 5-7 in terms of looks. So the virgin thing was really unexpected. No way was I going to take her virginity when I'm leaving in 4 weeks. No matter how willing she was. She's already taken to calling me "mi amor" something I'm not even close to reciprocating and I figure taking her virginity would make things even worse.
I'm still a bit baffled by the whole situation. I made sure she understands that I'm leaving in four weeks and not coming back. Anyway, just curious how other people would respond to a situation like this?
For the past couple of months, I've been hanging out with a 24 year old med student. She's a friend of my housemate's fiance. Because she's a med student we only see each other once or twice a week and things have progressed slowly.
Last weekend, she was willing to have sex with me but I couldn't bring myself to do it at least partially cause I hadn't told her that I was planning on leaving Medellin in about 5 weeks. I wanted her to be able to make an informed decision about what she wanted to do. Fast forward to this weekend...I finally broke the news to her during dinner. She seemed to take it in stride, just asked me a few questions about where I was planning on going and that was it.
We went back to my place, were making out, had some foreplay, I broke out the condom. I figured she knows what the score is so if she's willing to have sex with me, I'm going for it. But I was having problems staying hard and couldn't get inside of her. More foreplay and I broke out a second condom. Still no success. Fast forward to condom #3. Still nothing. At which point she said to me "btw, it might be a bit difficult cause I'm a virgin". Shit! Definitely didn't see that coming!
As I said, she's 24 (nearly 25), hasn't lived with her parents since she was about 20, and probably about a 5-7 in terms of looks. So the virgin thing was really unexpected. No way was I going to take her virginity when I'm leaving in 4 weeks. No matter how willing she was. She's already taken to calling me "mi amor" something I'm not even close to reciprocating and I figure taking her virginity would make things even worse.
I'm still a bit baffled by the whole situation. I made sure she understands that I'm leaving in four weeks and not coming back. Anyway, just curious how other people would respond to a situation like this?