Quote: (03-06-2011 10:10 PM)thegameoflife Wrote:
Then things start to break down. Three hours later I get a text that says she is embarrassed to contact me over the phone and that she feels bad and should have told me right away that she is seeing someone already. she acknowledges that coffee is harmless but thought she would tell me. her text also includes 'you seem like an amazing guy so, i'd love to get to know you but i don't want to lead you on. so i'm really sorry.'
I could obviously feel things slipping away so I countered with 'I'm very sorry to hear that....but I think coffee is harmless so let's plan to meet up this Monday' (as we originally planned). I took a gamble here because I made my intention totally known by putting 'I'm very sorry to hear that' but I thought at the time there was enough interest and that it was the alpha male way to respond so I went for it. Looking back I am actually very happy with the response.
Anyways she responds with 'okay sounds good to me.' that night but two days later sends me a text that she has decided it is better if we don't meet up because she doesn't want to waste my time and that she feels really bad. Basically....GAME OVER.
Not a good response. I don't think "I'm sorry" or its derivatives is appropriate in most contexts when dealing with a girl other than a real tragedy, e.g. a death, or obvious sarcasm. I would had personally went cocky funny with something like "i agree. i am an amazing guy. but lets not get ahead of ourselves here." I doubt that would had 'saved' the interaction though, merely increased the chances. Whatever. I would keep plowing and try and get her on the phone again to get her emotions flowing. You have nothing to lose.