Thank you so much WIA. I think the problem I'm seeing is because of a lack of a sexual frame (since the dates are from Coochsurfing or some other "social" meetup) and because I'm getting lazy with the dates.
However, I've done some "activity" dates earlier as well, namely hiking. I found it hard to escalate sexually when we're getting tired and sweaty and walking through the trails. I guess some activity dates work better and hiking is not one of them?
One thing hiking and coffee shop/bar dates have in common is a lot of conversation. Maybe that's why they both aren't working for me. I have gotten makeouts from both but not really been able to go all the way.
However, I've done some "activity" dates earlier as well, namely hiking. I found it hard to escalate sexually when we're getting tired and sweaty and walking through the trails. I guess some activity dates work better and hiking is not one of them?
One thing hiking and coffee shop/bar dates have in common is a lot of conversation. Maybe that's why they both aren't working for me. I have gotten makeouts from both but not really been able to go all the way.