[MiXX]

(01-27-2011 07:02 PM)oldnemesis Wrote:  

But I can summarize it even shorter: if one has low value, he will suffer in any kind of situation - be it a marriage, employment, sports or anything else. People only value you when they see that you could quit on them any time, and you'll easy find something similar or even better. They must feel that by staying with them you give them a favor or at least it is even, not that they give you a favor by letting you hang around. Note this is about your real value, not displayed one, as you cannot display a fake higher value for a long period.

This is actually VERY true. I once went out with a client to a social, but business event. While we were there, I bumped into former (female) executive clients of mine who, without knowing I was with a new client, started offering me opportunities for other assignments. This happened about 4x with other people in my industry. My client just stood quiet, and said nothing at the time.

Suddenly, I started getting phone calls from my client asking if I was OK, and if I needed anything, and he flat out asked me: "Mixx, you are not planning on leaving anytime soon right? I know that you are this coveted <my tittle> and can go anytime you want, I just want to be sure you are ok; the project cannot afford to lose you right now."

Funny, he had not said that to me before.....

Mixx