Ok here it is for me. The ideal woman out in society.
1 ) You are compassionate to men. It is hard for men to approach women. An excellent woman acknowledges this. If she doesn't like a pick up line or doesn't like the way a man approached, but does not want to live in a boring world where men never approach women, she can smile, "say, its good you came up to talk to me. If this was a pick up I have a boyfriend right now, but hey I love men who have the balls to do this". Desirable women are really up front with guys. They are really honest, and also they're interested in improving guys, even ones who they're not interested in. "That pick up line came across all wrong, but hey its fine if you want to talk".
Every time you cut a guy down who approaches you in a cold or cutting way, you create problems for another woman down the track.
2) You say what you prefer. I really like it when a girl says what she wants, but most of them are trained at an early age just to bottle things up because they lack basic assertiveness. Very few girls will say "I like it when you do this this and that", in bed and out of bed, "I need more X" etc... Once you're beyond the 2nd or 3rd date, you can take some initiative and not come across as pushy.
Girls with preferences are attractive. Ask your local cougar.
Girls, speaking very generally, tend to get skilled in manipulation to get what they want from an early age -eg. an extreme case is crying. Manipulative girls may win short term but they doom relationships long term. So just be up front. Don't manipulate emotions for an outcome.
3) You've got a life of your own. Like men, you have to tread the middle path between neediness and hyper-individuality. X-Factor touched on this. A great girl is going to be her own person. She's going to add to guys life. She's also going call out a guy on his bullshit, or if he seeks to control her life, or he's just not coming up to par - in a compassionate way. The number 4 below is subject to the principle of having your own life and having your own sense of self.
You've got a life of your own, so hopefully you're not too focussed on your man. It helps you keep perspective on life.
4) You're in touch with your feminine side. SHe is open and flowing and reactive. She's happy to be carried away into fantasy. She likes adventure and she likes to 'go with it'. That means she puts effort and energy in building a connection with a man and in her community. She creates space for the man's energy and passions, and delights in her man's ambitions and accomplishments. It signals she will be a loving nurturing mother, when the couple decide to have kids. Bringing out your feminine will make your man want to bring out more of his masculine nurturing traits.
5) You love men. She has male friends and she delights in men. What I also mean is she is not angry at men, like some women are because of the way one or two men treated them ( this goes for men too who hate women generally because of 1 or 2 bad experiences). Repressed anger is like poison. If you had some kind of bad experience with men or your dad, or your step dad, or cousin, or whatever, you need to explore and heal that wound.
You should like men deep down, despite individual mens' flaws.
Some women are ambivalent and so send weird messages to guys. If you don't like men - work on it with a friend who is a guy. Girls, if you don't know what you want, you're going to end up up in f*d up relationship.
1 ) You are compassionate to men. It is hard for men to approach women. An excellent woman acknowledges this. If she doesn't like a pick up line or doesn't like the way a man approached, but does not want to live in a boring world where men never approach women, she can smile, "say, its good you came up to talk to me. If this was a pick up I have a boyfriend right now, but hey I love men who have the balls to do this". Desirable women are really up front with guys. They are really honest, and also they're interested in improving guys, even ones who they're not interested in. "That pick up line came across all wrong, but hey its fine if you want to talk".
Every time you cut a guy down who approaches you in a cold or cutting way, you create problems for another woman down the track.
2) You say what you prefer. I really like it when a girl says what she wants, but most of them are trained at an early age just to bottle things up because they lack basic assertiveness. Very few girls will say "I like it when you do this this and that", in bed and out of bed, "I need more X" etc... Once you're beyond the 2nd or 3rd date, you can take some initiative and not come across as pushy.
Girls with preferences are attractive. Ask your local cougar.
Girls, speaking very generally, tend to get skilled in manipulation to get what they want from an early age -eg. an extreme case is crying. Manipulative girls may win short term but they doom relationships long term. So just be up front. Don't manipulate emotions for an outcome.
3) You've got a life of your own. Like men, you have to tread the middle path between neediness and hyper-individuality. X-Factor touched on this. A great girl is going to be her own person. She's going to add to guys life. She's also going call out a guy on his bullshit, or if he seeks to control her life, or he's just not coming up to par - in a compassionate way. The number 4 below is subject to the principle of having your own life and having your own sense of self.
You've got a life of your own, so hopefully you're not too focussed on your man. It helps you keep perspective on life.
4) You're in touch with your feminine side. SHe is open and flowing and reactive. She's happy to be carried away into fantasy. She likes adventure and she likes to 'go with it'. That means she puts effort and energy in building a connection with a man and in her community. She creates space for the man's energy and passions, and delights in her man's ambitions and accomplishments. It signals she will be a loving nurturing mother, when the couple decide to have kids. Bringing out your feminine will make your man want to bring out more of his masculine nurturing traits.
5) You love men. She has male friends and she delights in men. What I also mean is she is not angry at men, like some women are because of the way one or two men treated them ( this goes for men too who hate women generally because of 1 or 2 bad experiences). Repressed anger is like poison. If you had some kind of bad experience with men or your dad, or your step dad, or cousin, or whatever, you need to explore and heal that wound.
You should like men deep down, despite individual mens' flaws.
Some women are ambivalent and so send weird messages to guys. If you don't like men - work on it with a friend who is a guy. Girls, if you don't know what you want, you're going to end up up in f*d up relationship.
"For the true meaning of victory ask the defeated warrior"