Goldin Boy,
Interesting viewpoint.
I respect your opinion, but the following is why I disagree:
1) The dude has a scarcity mindset because if he believed there are a million+ matches out there for him (as guys with abundance mentalities do), then he wouldn't choose someone who would cause his ex-wife such justifiable grief. This isn't man-woman dynamics anymore--its choosing not to make a decision that will ruin another human being's family life.
By the way, I believe the large majority of guys operate from a scarcity mindset, so there's no quarter to be found in saying "most guys would do this if necessary."
I don't see how your co-worker hypo is analogous whatsoever. Go after your co-workers all you want--I won't equate you with this guy in the article. The difference between the two is that a woman is not losing her sister if you go after your co-worker.
2) Your point about integrity doesn't rebut my statement. True, he showed some integrity by raising his kid, but what does that have to do with his prior lame move of marrying his wife's sister? I suppose by your logic, someone can just escape responsibility for a lack of integrity by just not taking it further.
3) I agree with you entirely that some girls are merciless with betas. But this also is integrity-lacking behavior. One morally reprehensible act has nothing to do with the other. In other words, two wrongs don't make a right. These type of women should also be (and are, especially on this forum) spoken about with shaming language.
I get the sense that there is a feeling that just because we don't buy into feminazi western propoganda and white-knight behavior then that means that there is no such thing as integrity and we should comport ourselves in a "law of the jungle" type style.
I don't agree with this. If we don't like the moral system being imposed on us by our society because it shames men excessively or slants too much in favor of women, then we should choose our own moral code. BUT we should choose a code.
Just because we reject the feminazi machine which would have us believe that nearly everything is mistreatment of a woman, doesn't mean that the there no longer exists situations in which an asshole IS mistreating a woman. I believe leaving your wife for her sister is a prime candidate for such a classification.
It's also low-class gutter behavior worthy of Jerry Springer.
This is a moral issue for me--its not about rights. Of course a guy has the right to leave his wife for the sister, and I have the right to judge such a guy as a spineless.
Interesting viewpoint.
I respect your opinion, but the following is why I disagree:
1) The dude has a scarcity mindset because if he believed there are a million+ matches out there for him (as guys with abundance mentalities do), then he wouldn't choose someone who would cause his ex-wife such justifiable grief. This isn't man-woman dynamics anymore--its choosing not to make a decision that will ruin another human being's family life.
By the way, I believe the large majority of guys operate from a scarcity mindset, so there's no quarter to be found in saying "most guys would do this if necessary."
I don't see how your co-worker hypo is analogous whatsoever. Go after your co-workers all you want--I won't equate you with this guy in the article. The difference between the two is that a woman is not losing her sister if you go after your co-worker.
2) Your point about integrity doesn't rebut my statement. True, he showed some integrity by raising his kid, but what does that have to do with his prior lame move of marrying his wife's sister? I suppose by your logic, someone can just escape responsibility for a lack of integrity by just not taking it further.
3) I agree with you entirely that some girls are merciless with betas. But this also is integrity-lacking behavior. One morally reprehensible act has nothing to do with the other. In other words, two wrongs don't make a right. These type of women should also be (and are, especially on this forum) spoken about with shaming language.
I get the sense that there is a feeling that just because we don't buy into feminazi western propoganda and white-knight behavior then that means that there is no such thing as integrity and we should comport ourselves in a "law of the jungle" type style.
I don't agree with this. If we don't like the moral system being imposed on us by our society because it shames men excessively or slants too much in favor of women, then we should choose our own moral code. BUT we should choose a code.
Just because we reject the feminazi machine which would have us believe that nearly everything is mistreatment of a woman, doesn't mean that the there no longer exists situations in which an asshole IS mistreating a woman. I believe leaving your wife for her sister is a prime candidate for such a classification.
It's also low-class gutter behavior worthy of Jerry Springer.
This is a moral issue for me--its not about rights. Of course a guy has the right to leave his wife for the sister, and I have the right to judge such a guy as a spineless.