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I've seen too many men dutifully serving other parties selfish interests (following the ideology of "manning up") that in the process they eventually become either a "roadkill", or at best a streak of shadow of their former selves. It's too sad. Yet preventable.
Exactly this, no shit. I saw this happening to my dad for a period of many years where he worked himself near the breaking point, no vacations or anything for a long fucking time. It drove him to alcoholism and completely destroyed his life. My dad was basically a stranger to me until high school because I hardly ever saw him. Unless you have seen a family member push something like 60-100 hours a week of (basically) manual labor for upwards of fifteen or twenty years you'd probably not be sure what I'm talking about.
What was really sad was that he just figured that was his responsibility, basically to work to provide for the family at great expense to his health. To be honest I am not sure what was going on "behind the scenes" because I was a kid and did not want to know but I would not have blamed him if he divorced for the sake of his health. I don't understand that kind of sacrifice, even for your wife and kids. That's why I may have kids but will never marry.