Quote: (12-12-2008 04:55 PM)Demitrios Wrote:
Quote: (12-12-2008 12:00 PM)Trotter Wrote:
There are a ton of threads in this forum about guys asking what to do with their ex's. Some of them have some pretty good advice so check those out.
How did you become alpha like what were some of the things you did? You seem to know alot of what your saying is true,so I think advice froom you is solid and I appreciate the rest of advice man.
I spent a lot of years bowing down to the beckon of women. I used to be that guy that thought I had to be super nice to girls and do things that would appease them or just make them happy in general. My legs would turn to jello whenever I tried to talk to a girl. I was the flower and balloons guy for the longest time and it was getting me nowhere. Ultimately, in the end a lot of women just saw me as a good 'friend'. And it was especially infuriating to me seeing these same girls walking out in the arms of some guy I thought was a big a-hole.
I was fortunate enough to be able to learn from other guys that knew how to handle themselves around women. I had two roommates years ago that gave me some tips I was able to use to finally get to the point of where I am today. I have also studied online material at various PUA sites along the way. But no matter what I read or what my friends tried to teach me the one thing they couldn't teach was to release my alpha and to stop fearing rejection.
The day I had my epiphany was the day after I had spent the night with a woman that I had only known hours previous to it happening. I woke up the next morning realizing that I had put my fears aside and reflected on my attitude and how it worked for me. I showed this chick that I was very much secure with myself and that I wasn't trying to get her to like me. In fact, I wasn't even trying to pick her up because I wasn't attracted to her at all. And it was that understanding that opened a new horizon for me. I more or less just stopped caring all together and decided it was a far more effective approach to stop fearing rejection, and to stop placing women on a pedastal.