Quote: (06-06-2012 03:57 AM)All or Nothing Wrote:
Quote: (06-06-2012 03:13 AM)P Dog Wrote:
I'm being to repeat what I said before. Yes, good looks will help, so improve what you can: Dress better, work out, grow some nice facial hair, fix your body language/posture. The key is that while you're improving all these things, that you stop giving a fuck about how you look. Screw it, just become narcissistic, when I look in the mirror I actually see myself as having a the face of a movie star or male model. In my mind I am sexy as fuck and you all should see yourselves this way too. This isn't just a veneer masking some deeper insecurity, it is a core belief and you can bet your bottom dollar this core mindset has a positive impact on my confidence and charisma.
Either truly love how you look, or don't give a single flying fuck. If you have any negative perceptions about yourself and looks, the insecurities will hurt your game and it's the same with money/race/height.
That isn't possible. You can't go the gym 5-6 times a week, eat super clean, and pay for a couple of supplements, and not care. Doing all of that means that you care A LOT about your health and how your body looks. You cannot do both. You have to make a choice, and when given the choice, I choose to care.
I'll share a little something with you. I am about 30-40 pounds overweight. I am 6'1", 205 pounds and most of that weight ain't muscle. I feel insecure about being a chubby motherfucker, but instead of complaining or Not Giving A Fuck ™, I am going to actively do something about it. I just started the LeanGains approach to dieting, and from my calculations, I'm eating around 2200 calories a day. I am also hitting up the gym 5-6 times a week now. I wouldn't do all of this if I didn't give a fuck. I do this because I legitimately care about how I look, and about my health (mostly looks).
When it comes to things you cannot change (face, height), you have to just learn acceptance. At the end of the day, there is nothing you can do about it. I say acceptance instead of Not Giving A Fuck because acceptance comes from security while NGAF is just a poor attempt at covering up deep insecurities.
See, the not giving a fuck, and loving yourself for who you are sounds all nice and dandy on paper, but it simply does not translate to real life. If you truly want something great in life (body, lifestyle, women), you have to work hard for it, and care a lot. You can't just make it happen inside of your head.
You missed the point, read what I said.
1. Improve everything you can.
2. Not give a fuck. ie. rid yourself of any insecurities. And truly don't give a fuck anything that you could rationalize into an insecurity. Big difference, this isn't some mantra you repeat to yourself, it's what you actually believe, it's your reality. Does that make sense?
3. Actually believe you're the sexiest motherfucker even if objectively speaking you don't look like Brad Pitt. This is probably impossible while you're still losing weight, so come back to this point in the future.
What I'm talking about is basically deep, core confidence. The more of it you have, the less and less you care about the looks/height/race/money crap. The next step for me is probably ignoring threads on this topic on RVF when I see them like the senior "elite" level posters on the forum seem to do.