[Aylar]

(06-20-2010 07:04 PM)Kona Wrote:  

(06-20-2010 06:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

Because he fulfills me in every other way every other man i've been with hasn't. He treats me very well emotionally. And that's what women care about mostly after a certain age.

Because he wanted to wait that long. We waited because we got to know each other first and we established a friendship, then we messed around, and finally we had sex. honestly it was more like 2 months now that i think of it.

Aylar,

I hate to break this to you: He did not wait 2 months to swoop you because he wanted to be your good friend.

He waited because he had no clue how to bang you. He knew that after the lackluster sex got going, you would feel way too guilty to make it an issue.

Something else you may want to consider is the fact that you probably aren't his first. You may be one girl out of many who've experienced this guys lack of stamina. Maybe that's why he's too scared to perform properly? Lots of other girls have probably kicked him out after he spent two months snuggling with them once they found out he wasn't any good sexually.

I'm sure you've talked about it, what's his history with girls been like in the 25 years you didn't know him?

Aloha!

Im sure i'm his first, and if i'm not, it doesn't make a difference to me either way. I've had several partners. It's his problem for lying. Either way if I wasn't his first, I can't imagine him having ever had sex more than once or twice in his life. He had zero experience before we started dating. I experienced this first hand. I suggested 69 the other day for the first time as he went down on me and he refused. He said maybe next time. We were in a car so maybe he was a bit paranoid, but I think sometimes he can be awkward about new experiences. i can tell he hasn't had much. I guess its just something u can tell

He said he dated a girl when he was 17 for a few months, she wasn't a virgin, but he never had sex with her. he said it was mostly because she wasnt very attractive and he was embarassed and if he were to have sex with her he didnt want to be teased about it.

then he dated another girl, a virgin, when he was 20 for about a year. he said he almost did it with this one, but was cut short by a security guard. guess it was in a car.

then he was engaged to a fiancee, long distance, whom he didnt even makeout with, kind of an arranged marriage (he's persian), so that relationship doesnt even count. this ended not too long before he met me.