Here is my take on this.
Approach anxiety is fear. But fear of what? It is purely psychological. You are afraid that somebody will judge you negatively, and as a consequence you will feel less about yourself. Since you can't directly know the thoughts of someone else, it is all in your head: both the "bad opinion" you think she has of you, as well as the conclusion that you must now feel bad about yourself. It's a mind game.
Here is one approach to defeat the mind game.
Step 1. Make your nonverbal and verbal behavior blameless in your own eyes.
Especially, you should be aware of the power of non verbal behavior in a new encounter. When you approach a woman, she makes a quick judgment on whether you are a threat or not based on her cognitive biases. For example, she may see you staring at her for just a second in the comer of her eye. This is all it takes to classify you as a threat. This is part of the fast reacting System I part of the brain that forms quick judgments using heuristic rules and cognitive biases.
I recommend reading the following book written by a Nobel Prize winner explaining how System I and System II works.
https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slo...ay&sr=8-12
STEP 2. Conditioning your mind
Condition yourself to adopt the following belief: " You can only control your behavior, but can't control how people react to you". Thus, if you are rejected, there is nothing to feel bad about. You didn't do anything wrong. However, you can review your behavior to see if there is anything you can make better. If there is some confrontation, just walk away. You have no obligation to react to other people. Concentrate on your own dignity.
Approach anxiety is fear. But fear of what? It is purely psychological. You are afraid that somebody will judge you negatively, and as a consequence you will feel less about yourself. Since you can't directly know the thoughts of someone else, it is all in your head: both the "bad opinion" you think she has of you, as well as the conclusion that you must now feel bad about yourself. It's a mind game.
Here is one approach to defeat the mind game.
Step 1. Make your nonverbal and verbal behavior blameless in your own eyes.
Especially, you should be aware of the power of non verbal behavior in a new encounter. When you approach a woman, she makes a quick judgment on whether you are a threat or not based on her cognitive biases. For example, she may see you staring at her for just a second in the comer of her eye. This is all it takes to classify you as a threat. This is part of the fast reacting System I part of the brain that forms quick judgments using heuristic rules and cognitive biases.
I recommend reading the following book written by a Nobel Prize winner explaining how System I and System II works.
https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slo...ay&sr=8-12
STEP 2. Conditioning your mind
Condition yourself to adopt the following belief: " You can only control your behavior, but can't control how people react to you". Thus, if you are rejected, there is nothing to feel bad about. You didn't do anything wrong. However, you can review your behavior to see if there is anything you can make better. If there is some confrontation, just walk away. You have no obligation to react to other people. Concentrate on your own dignity.
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